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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 336620" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>I would absolutly call her exH. Even though you weren't a huge fan on a friend level with the man, you sound so sure of his dedication to his daughter. Stability for such special needs kids is paramount, we all know that. Sounds like she is in a good place. I would hate to see someone with such a flaky history, rushing in and disrupting this girls life. Not to mention, what environment would she be in? What would her future hold? </p><p></p><p>I would let the exH know that you have no intention of getting in exBFF's business or life, that actually you have zero desire to resurrect a long dead friendship, nor do you want to embroil yourself in his business. But that you do see how well the child is doing in his care and you have real concerns that she could be uprooted. I would tell him that you have been made aware of exbff's intention to yank the child out of his home, and that you are aware there is no custody order via a court for the child, nor his, protection. And that you thought he shoudl be aware so that he can decide to perhaps preempt this action and request an emergency temporary custody order to maintain status quo while seeking permenant full time custody. Tell him you respect what he's done to give his daughter a stable healthy environment and are only making the call because you realize how unfair to him and more so his child it would be to have her summarily removed and disrupted in which case it would be harder for him to get custody in the long term. And if he starts digging for dirt, respectfully decline to get into he said/she said stuff. Leave it at that you care about this childs interests and felt he should know so he could take action if he chooses. </p><p></p><p>What a mess huh? <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> I hope it all ends well for this little girl</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 336620, member: 4264"] I would absolutly call her exH. Even though you weren't a huge fan on a friend level with the man, you sound so sure of his dedication to his daughter. Stability for such special needs kids is paramount, we all know that. Sounds like she is in a good place. I would hate to see someone with such a flaky history, rushing in and disrupting this girls life. Not to mention, what environment would she be in? What would her future hold? I would let the exH know that you have no intention of getting in exBFF's business or life, that actually you have zero desire to resurrect a long dead friendship, nor do you want to embroil yourself in his business. But that you do see how well the child is doing in his care and you have real concerns that she could be uprooted. I would tell him that you have been made aware of exbff's intention to yank the child out of his home, and that you are aware there is no custody order via a court for the child, nor his, protection. And that you thought he shoudl be aware so that he can decide to perhaps preempt this action and request an emergency temporary custody order to maintain status quo while seeking permenant full time custody. Tell him you respect what he's done to give his daughter a stable healthy environment and are only making the call because you realize how unfair to him and more so his child it would be to have her summarily removed and disrupted in which case it would be harder for him to get custody in the long term. And if he starts digging for dirt, respectfully decline to get into he said/she said stuff. Leave it at that you care about this childs interests and felt he should know so he could take action if he chooses. What a mess huh? :( I hope it all ends well for this little girl [/QUOTE]
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