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<blockquote data-quote="recovering doormat" data-source="post: 246366" data-attributes="member: 5941"><p>These are all great ideas. I need Al Anon or Nar-Anon just for me, and there are Al Anon meetings all over the place near me, so that's a very good thing. </p><p> </p><p>I spoke at length with the behaviorist who has been helping our family for the past year (not with the greatest consistency, but DCF is paying for her, not us, so I can't complain too much) and she basically said that I can only control what goes on in my house, and do I want to take her and worry about what she is doing in my house when I'm not there? (I think it was a guy she met on Myspace who took my jewelry one weekend when I was out of town and my two oldest decided to have a party without my knowledge or consent, this kid had done time in prison and supplied the kids with weed).</p><p> </p><p>As I'm typing this I'm hit with just how awful it has been with these two difficult child's the past 8 months: lying, stealing, drinking and drugging in my home, breaking curfew, assaults, vandalism..no wonder I'm exhausted all the time.</p><p> </p><p>My chief worry is the 12 year old, who is on thin emotional ice, as you can imagine. I would love for her to join a girls group therapy once a week to vent, but it's so hard to get kids her age to agree to participate, they don't like to talk about feelings with strangers. She is hard-core into cheerleading and all that "spirit" stuff,and she is great at it. I'm so glad she has that physical release from the practice as well as the sisterhood of the other 12 yr olds. We went to a national competition in Hartford several weekends ago and it was so much fun, a real girl's weekend except I didn't have a hangover. Her grades have actually improved since she started cheering (also coincides with-her sister living with-dad and her brother in rehab....)</p><p> </p><p>The behaviorist also said that DCF might push for us to get difficult child 1 out of both our homes because her activities could be detrimental to son's recovery and continued sobriety, and obviously would be a problem with-younger sister (difficult child 1 has been increasingly moody and volatile since she went off Prozac three months ago and slapped her little sister across the face last week).</p><p> </p><p>Yeah, my plate and my head are full these days! Fortunately, all three kids are elsewhere tonight so I get to relax a little. </p><p> </p><p>I keep telling myself: "this too shall pass."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recovering doormat, post: 246366, member: 5941"] These are all great ideas. I need Al Anon or Nar-Anon just for me, and there are Al Anon meetings all over the place near me, so that's a very good thing. I spoke at length with the behaviorist who has been helping our family for the past year (not with the greatest consistency, but DCF is paying for her, not us, so I can't complain too much) and she basically said that I can only control what goes on in my house, and do I want to take her and worry about what she is doing in my house when I'm not there? (I think it was a guy she met on Myspace who took my jewelry one weekend when I was out of town and my two oldest decided to have a party without my knowledge or consent, this kid had done time in prison and supplied the kids with weed). As I'm typing this I'm hit with just how awful it has been with these two difficult child's the past 8 months: lying, stealing, drinking and drugging in my home, breaking curfew, assaults, vandalism..no wonder I'm exhausted all the time. My chief worry is the 12 year old, who is on thin emotional ice, as you can imagine. I would love for her to join a girls group therapy once a week to vent, but it's so hard to get kids her age to agree to participate, they don't like to talk about feelings with strangers. She is hard-core into cheerleading and all that "spirit" stuff,and she is great at it. I'm so glad she has that physical release from the practice as well as the sisterhood of the other 12 yr olds. We went to a national competition in Hartford several weekends ago and it was so much fun, a real girl's weekend except I didn't have a hangover. Her grades have actually improved since she started cheering (also coincides with-her sister living with-dad and her brother in rehab....) The behaviorist also said that DCF might push for us to get difficult child 1 out of both our homes because her activities could be detrimental to son's recovery and continued sobriety, and obviously would be a problem with-younger sister (difficult child 1 has been increasingly moody and volatile since she went off Prozac three months ago and slapped her little sister across the face last week). Yeah, my plate and my head are full these days! Fortunately, all three kids are elsewhere tonight so I get to relax a little. I keep telling myself: "this too shall pass." [/QUOTE]
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