I have a seven year old son, who even as a baby was difficult to manage. Whether it was not putting his shoes or socks on in the right order, his face getting messy, or just outright defiance at anything I tried to teach him. He has been through way more than most kids his age, we(myself, 2 boys and girl) left their abusive father 2 years ago. Once he started school it became even more apparent that he didn't transition well, so I worked with him and the school. Every year I have the same problems when he starts school. First it starts out he gets irritated by something or someone(either they don't want to do what he wants or they are bothering him), then he hits, yells and screams until someone pulls him off. He's extremely sensitive to his surroundings. I have taken him to a counselor, so that I can try and help him manage his anger. She has diagnosed him with ODD. The only problem is he tells me and counselor he doesn't know why he acts this way and he can tell you verbatim what he is supposed to do when he begins to get irritated. His father is no help and never has been, I've tried telling him that our sons behavior is getting worse and more violent but all he tells me is no medications! I'm not sure what to do as he doesn't have to live with this and doesn't have to deal with the phone calls from teachers, principals,bus drivers and daycare providers. Any advice you guys can give me in trying to help him manage this or make the connection between his anger and him taking responsibility before he hurts someone please let me know.