One of my relatives, a person I love dearly, was one that could not understand my choices of my relationship with my difficult child. Her attitude was 'but you're the mother, fix it'. Life has a funny way of explaining what I could not. Her son married a girl he had dated for a few months, she was pregnant and my relative was pushing them to get married. From the first time I met the unemployed lady, with a year old child and she was 2 months pregnant, I saw neon difficult child signs flashing over her head. AND SADLY I WAS RIGHT! She has caused so many problems and tries to keep the son from his family. The latest was Mother's Day and my relative was hurt deeply. The latest was a 'sex for drugs' that the difficult child was involved in and 'over the top sex' that both were involved in - and sounds like a few other people were too lol. He lost a great job due to failing a drug test and he says he wasn't using, it was difficult child and transmitted to him during sex. This is a small area and it has spread fast as gossip does, and my relative is embarrassed and upset about it. Her son moves in with her when they fight and she wants him to divorce the difficult child, but he always goes back. She finally told him, either leave her or not, but your not staying at my house when you fight. Relative and difficult child had a huge fight when difficult child posted pics of the toddler drinking a beer on FB. difficult child says it was only pretend, but in true difficult child style doesn't understand what the big deal is. My relative has a strained relationship with her son now, and difficult child is not invited to any family functions. My relative finally understands why I choose to step back, the drama is too stressful, and we can not 'fix' it. People not involved with a true difficult child can not fully understand! Sadly, she does now.