Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
New and Afraid
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 222310" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Wow - what a strong willed boy you have. I agree with Smallworld - especially about the discharge plan. Set some house rules with consequences. The hospital SW should be able to help with this. </p><p></p><p>You may feel that hospital stays are not helpful because you do not see major or if any changes. However, he has built this behavior so strong and for him it is how he survives. He needs to learn a different way. In the book "The Manipulative Child" it states, "Those who manipulate do not seem aware of how they operate or why. This is just a way of carrying on life's business. Learned from doing. Used even when other more honest and straight forward methods would serve as well or better." </p><p></p><p>With the hospital's statement of surprise there is not a juvenile officer involved tells me that they see some dangerous behavoirs going on. </p><p></p><p>Has he ever had intense testings to determine what is going on? </p><p></p><p>Fran has also offered important questions to consider in the discharge plan.</p><p></p><p>This will not go away quickly - it will take a lot of work. The hardest part will be getting difficult child to realize that he does not want to be were he is. Remember, no matter how awful, it has become his way of life and will be a risk on his part to change.</p><p></p><p>Priority one - Keep siblings and yourself safe!</p><p></p><p>No one is to blame for what is going on. In testings, you may find the medical reason that will be helped with medications. Therapy will also help. </p><p></p><p>Keep an eye on your kids, they may need help in learning how to appropriately react to his behavior also. Give them guidelines - let them know that they can ALWAYS come to you. If he gets to the point of threating them if they tell, they may not want to tell so let them know that his threats do not have power over you. You cancel out his threats toward them.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 222310, member: 5096"] Wow - what a strong willed boy you have. I agree with Smallworld - especially about the discharge plan. Set some house rules with consequences. The hospital SW should be able to help with this. You may feel that hospital stays are not helpful because you do not see major or if any changes. However, he has built this behavior so strong and for him it is how he survives. He needs to learn a different way. In the book "The Manipulative Child" it states, "Those who manipulate do not seem aware of how they operate or why. This is just a way of carrying on life's business. Learned from doing. Used even when other more honest and straight forward methods would serve as well or better." With the hospital's statement of surprise there is not a juvenile officer involved tells me that they see some dangerous behavoirs going on. Has he ever had intense testings to determine what is going on? Fran has also offered important questions to consider in the discharge plan. This will not go away quickly - it will take a lot of work. The hardest part will be getting difficult child to realize that he does not want to be were he is. Remember, no matter how awful, it has become his way of life and will be a risk on his part to change. Priority one - Keep siblings and yourself safe! No one is to blame for what is going on. In testings, you may find the medical reason that will be helped with medications. Therapy will also help. Keep an eye on your kids, they may need help in learning how to appropriately react to his behavior also. Give them guidelines - let them know that they can ALWAYS come to you. If he gets to the point of threating them if they tell, they may not want to tell so let them know that his threats do not have power over you. You cancel out his threats toward them. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
New and Afraid
Top