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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 533806" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p><strong>Has he already molested them? How do they feel about his kiliing the cat?</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>I found that my k ids already hated him, and they still do (as well as fear him). </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>You have soooooooooooo many animals. I am sure our child killed more animals than the ones we know about. My daughter told me she saw him strangling a neighbor's cat and he said to her, "If you tell anyone, I'll kill you." The cat was saved when a neighbor came out of the house. He dropped the cat and it ran away. One of our daughter's cats disappeared. We do not know for sure that he killed it, but we assume he did, since it never came home and it always came home before. </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>Enough about our child. <em>Hon, this is not a child that should ever again live in your home</em>. He can ever be trusted by himself or alone with your other children or animals. If social services find out he molests any of your kids currently in your home, they will not allow you to adopt those kids any more than if you give him back to the system. In fact, they could remove your other children too. It's not a pretty situation. Is it even possible to keep everyone safe from him? in my opinion, no.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>You'd need to get an alarm on his bedroom door so that if he even goes to the john at night you are aware that he is out of his room and can monitor him. Somebody would have to watch him 24/7, which is not possible. Even going to the toilet would be hard.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>You'd need to call a cat rescue and try to give your cats to them. I am an uber-uber animal lover and don't think it's fair for some little, innocent animals be put in harm's way. It is so easy to kill a kitten. </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>I think you should also find a rescue for the dogs. I never dreamed R. could kill our cocker spaniel. He could be cranky. But he strangled him and forced my other children to watch him doing it. He also told them he'd kill them if they told their parents that he had done it. He acted like an angel around adults so we didn't suspect him. Instead we thought it was some nasty teenagers who lived down the road. The second dog he killed was the one that gave him away. He was home from school and only he and I were there. We had bought a sweet female cocker spaniel puppy to try to make our family get over the loss of our strangled dog. Suddenly R. came running to me, yelling that the puppy had strangled herself on her leash.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>We called the cops. They said that he had done it, even though he wouldn't admit it. And of course he had. Why would the poor little girl even have her leash on in the house? He had thrown her over the top bunk bed, her leash's loop over the bed post. He had hung her. I still cry (and am now) when I think about that poor puppy's death. You can not trust these kids who do not have a conscience.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>He also set little fires in his room, something the kids didn't tell me until he was gone. Then they showed us the parts of the old carpeting that he had burned, but not until after he was gone.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>Although we had told our kids to always trust us if somebody hurt them or scared them, this child was so frightening to them that they felt he was too dangerous to betray. He threatened to burn the house down and kill us all. This was all done without our knowledge. God only knows what your son has done. You will not know while he is living there.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>YOU DO NOT KNOW EVERYTHING THIS CHILD HAS DONE!</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>When there are other children and animals to consider, in my opinion it is unfair to force them to live with a child who is so damaged that he has no conscience or boundaries. If this were me, I would ask CPS to take him away. If you can not adopt the other two children, then at least they will not suffer his abuse. We gave up another child we were hoping to adopt when we asked CPS to take R. Turns out, R. was also sexually abusing THAT child. He is now adopted in another family and happy. We get reports. </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>Sadly, there are some children who are so damaged they can not live in a family. in my opinion he is one of them. Our ex-son was taken to a residential center for young sexual predators. He was also charged at age 13 for sexual assault of a minor child (our other kids were six years younger than him and that is considered the magic number). He is a lifetime sexual predator and is supposed to sign up wherever he moves although I know for a fact he has not. He is married now with two little girls, God help them.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>We still live with his specter haunting us forever, and nobody wants anything to do with him again. According to his social worker, he never did improve in residential. Instead he tried to perp there too. </strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>We had no idea that this child was sexually abusing our children until my little one started getting urinary tract infections...then we got suspicious. He hid it well and scared the little ones to death. And you don't really know all your son has done either. Trust me on that. Yes, I know I already said that and you may think you do. But you don't; you can't.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>Gentle hugs and hope for a sane solution to a terrible problem. Please...do not bring this child back to your house. There is no way you can watch him all the time and he may perp at school or in the neighborhood too...and you are his guardians. You are responsible.</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 533806, member: 1550"] [B]Has he already molested them? How do they feel about his kiliing the cat? I found that my k ids already hated him, and they still do (as well as fear him). You have soooooooooooo many animals. I am sure our child killed more animals than the ones we know about. My daughter told me she saw him strangling a neighbor's cat and he said to her, "If you tell anyone, I'll kill you." The cat was saved when a neighbor came out of the house. He dropped the cat and it ran away. One of our daughter's cats disappeared. We do not know for sure that he killed it, but we assume he did, since it never came home and it always came home before. Enough about our child. [I]Hon, this is not a child that should ever again live in your home[/I]. He can ever be trusted by himself or alone with your other children or animals. If social services find out he molests any of your kids currently in your home, they will not allow you to adopt those kids any more than if you give him back to the system. In fact, they could remove your other children too. It's not a pretty situation. Is it even possible to keep everyone safe from him? in my opinion, no. You'd need to get an alarm on his bedroom door so that if he even goes to the john at night you are aware that he is out of his room and can monitor him. Somebody would have to watch him 24/7, which is not possible. Even going to the toilet would be hard. You'd need to call a cat rescue and try to give your cats to them. I am an uber-uber animal lover and don't think it's fair for some little, innocent animals be put in harm's way. It is so easy to kill a kitten. I think you should also find a rescue for the dogs. I never dreamed R. could kill our cocker spaniel. He could be cranky. But he strangled him and forced my other children to watch him doing it. He also told them he'd kill them if they told their parents that he had done it. He acted like an angel around adults so we didn't suspect him. Instead we thought it was some nasty teenagers who lived down the road. The second dog he killed was the one that gave him away. He was home from school and only he and I were there. We had bought a sweet female cocker spaniel puppy to try to make our family get over the loss of our strangled dog. Suddenly R. came running to me, yelling that the puppy had strangled herself on her leash. We called the cops. They said that he had done it, even though he wouldn't admit it. And of course he had. Why would the poor little girl even have her leash on in the house? He had thrown her over the top bunk bed, her leash's loop over the bed post. He had hung her. I still cry (and am now) when I think about that poor puppy's death. You can not trust these kids who do not have a conscience. He also set little fires in his room, something the kids didn't tell me until he was gone. Then they showed us the parts of the old carpeting that he had burned, but not until after he was gone. Although we had told our kids to always trust us if somebody hurt them or scared them, this child was so frightening to them that they felt he was too dangerous to betray. He threatened to burn the house down and kill us all. This was all done without our knowledge. God only knows what your son has done. You will not know while he is living there. YOU DO NOT KNOW EVERYTHING THIS CHILD HAS DONE! When there are other children and animals to consider, in my opinion it is unfair to force them to live with a child who is so damaged that he has no conscience or boundaries. If this were me, I would ask CPS to take him away. If you can not adopt the other two children, then at least they will not suffer his abuse. We gave up another child we were hoping to adopt when we asked CPS to take R. Turns out, R. was also sexually abusing THAT child. He is now adopted in another family and happy. We get reports. Sadly, there are some children who are so damaged they can not live in a family. in my opinion he is one of them. Our ex-son was taken to a residential center for young sexual predators. He was also charged at age 13 for sexual assault of a minor child (our other kids were six years younger than him and that is considered the magic number). He is a lifetime sexual predator and is supposed to sign up wherever he moves although I know for a fact he has not. He is married now with two little girls, God help them. We still live with his specter haunting us forever, and nobody wants anything to do with him again. According to his social worker, he never did improve in residential. Instead he tried to perp there too. We had no idea that this child was sexually abusing our children until my little one started getting urinary tract infections...then we got suspicious. He hid it well and scared the little ones to death. And you don't really know all your son has done either. Trust me on that. Yes, I know I already said that and you may think you do. But you don't; you can't. Gentle hugs and hope for a sane solution to a terrible problem. Please...do not bring this child back to your house. There is no way you can watch him all the time and he may perp at school or in the neighborhood too...and you are his guardians. You are responsible. [/B] [/QUOTE]
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