Hi,
I have never joined any boards or chats before but I need help. I am a 47 year old mom with three kids. My middle son is 12 and has a confirmed (since age 7) diagnosis of ADHD and I am desperately afraid for him and our family.
Jake has had the typical ADHD issues since daycare (project enlightment was called in at age 4). He struggled through elementary school with ok grades and consistently getting in trouble for the annoying but non-aggressive type behaviors. He was not medicated. He started getting worse both in behavior and academics in sixth grade once puberty hit and this year he is out of control and I am terrified of the path he is walking. I am afraid we are going to lose him and it will be too late to turn him around. On the surface the only thing he cares about is soccer (he plays year round). He is getting in trouble more at school and his grades are very poor and that is only because I work hours with him each night to help him study. He is angry and disrespectful at home and we have already gone to two different Drs and Jake now refuses to go anymore. When he did go he would not speak at all. I got two different behavior plans from each person I went to and neither has been successful. I dont know what to do anymore in terms of the academics (just let him fail??) or the behavior.
My husband has been laid off for almost a year which is a struggle financially but people have mentioned things like boot camp and military school etc. and that scares me so much. My husband and I don't have any idea how to parent him anymore and he is so defiant and angry that I breath a sigh of relief just to get through one day without a meltdown and that doesn't even take into account the school issues.
Any suggestions? This is ruining our family and my marriage but I love my son so much and I don't know how to help him or reach him. I see him addicted to drugs, dead or in jail within a few years without help.
Thanks,
I have never joined any boards or chats before but I need help. I am a 47 year old mom with three kids. My middle son is 12 and has a confirmed (since age 7) diagnosis of ADHD and I am desperately afraid for him and our family.
Jake has had the typical ADHD issues since daycare (project enlightment was called in at age 4). He struggled through elementary school with ok grades and consistently getting in trouble for the annoying but non-aggressive type behaviors. He was not medicated. He started getting worse both in behavior and academics in sixth grade once puberty hit and this year he is out of control and I am terrified of the path he is walking. I am afraid we are going to lose him and it will be too late to turn him around. On the surface the only thing he cares about is soccer (he plays year round). He is getting in trouble more at school and his grades are very poor and that is only because I work hours with him each night to help him study. He is angry and disrespectful at home and we have already gone to two different Drs and Jake now refuses to go anymore. When he did go he would not speak at all. I got two different behavior plans from each person I went to and neither has been successful. I dont know what to do anymore in terms of the academics (just let him fail??) or the behavior.
My husband has been laid off for almost a year which is a struggle financially but people have mentioned things like boot camp and military school etc. and that scares me so much. My husband and I don't have any idea how to parent him anymore and he is so defiant and angry that I breath a sigh of relief just to get through one day without a meltdown and that doesn't even take into account the school issues.
Any suggestions? This is ruining our family and my marriage but I love my son so much and I don't know how to help him or reach him. I see him addicted to drugs, dead or in jail within a few years without help.
Thanks,