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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 82015" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I had a very defiant daughter who took drugs. Are you certain she isn't? If you are certain (although it's hard to really know) then I'd make her act eighteen if s he wanted to live at home. I don't know that I'd transport her to and from work. In our neighborhood, a short cab ride is cheap. Or maybe she could find a co-worker and pay for a ride. But that's pretty minor. She's eighteen, but she lives in your house and she follows your rules or you make her leave (in my opinion). She still has a curfew, she helps clean up, she helps cook, she pays rent even if she doesn't make a lot of money. I agree with your difficult child about college. If she doesn't want to go, there's no point in pushing her into it. That's her own personal decision. As long as she worked and paid her rent and other small expenses, I'd be all right, as long as she understood that as long as she lives at home, she still has rules and can not do as she pleases. Making my daughter leave the house was hard. She had no car either (she'd cracked up two and had no license). She had to find a place to live and walk to work. She moved in with my son in his huge house and found a job across the street. She worked her tale off at a Subway and has done well since then and has quit using drugs and hanging with scary friends. She is doing well at 23. It took her a little longer to grow up too, but making her leave was a great thing for her. She never would have grown up with me around. For some reason, she listened to her brothers's strict rules, but not ours. Her brother was tough on her and did not give her rides and made her clean up, cook, smoke only outside and minimize who she invited into the basement (where she lived). He is seven years her elder, but more a peer to her than I am and she respected him. Maybe you have a relative who can help you. If not, I hope your daughter tows the line and all goes well. Welcome to the board!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 82015, member: 1550"] I had a very defiant daughter who took drugs. Are you certain she isn't? If you are certain (although it's hard to really know) then I'd make her act eighteen if s he wanted to live at home. I don't know that I'd transport her to and from work. In our neighborhood, a short cab ride is cheap. Or maybe she could find a co-worker and pay for a ride. But that's pretty minor. She's eighteen, but she lives in your house and she follows your rules or you make her leave (in my opinion). She still has a curfew, she helps clean up, she helps cook, she pays rent even if she doesn't make a lot of money. I agree with your difficult child about college. If she doesn't want to go, there's no point in pushing her into it. That's her own personal decision. As long as she worked and paid her rent and other small expenses, I'd be all right, as long as she understood that as long as she lives at home, she still has rules and can not do as she pleases. Making my daughter leave the house was hard. She had no car either (she'd cracked up two and had no license). She had to find a place to live and walk to work. She moved in with my son in his huge house and found a job across the street. She worked her tale off at a Subway and has done well since then and has quit using drugs and hanging with scary friends. She is doing well at 23. It took her a little longer to grow up too, but making her leave was a great thing for her. She never would have grown up with me around. For some reason, she listened to her brothers's strict rules, but not ours. Her brother was tough on her and did not give her rides and made her clean up, cook, smoke only outside and minimize who she invited into the basement (where she lived). He is seven years her elder, but more a peer to her than I am and she respected him. Maybe you have a relative who can help you. If not, I hope your daughter tows the line and all goes well. Welcome to the board! [/QUOTE]
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