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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 91149" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>ravengal, for sure it is a Catch-22 situation. I know how that feels - it's like you're trying to negotiate with a tree.</p><p></p><p>We told difficult child that if she didn't work or go to school, she would not be allowed to live here. She stayed at a friend's house for a few days before we shipped her off to her dad's and all she kept saying was that she wanted to live at home and would do anything to do so. She said, "I realized I'm not ready to be on my own. I'm not ready anyway. I miss my bed and my puppy." It was kind of pathetic, actually, she sounded so immature for her age. But then, she IS a difficult child, after all.</p><p></p><p>Your daughter sounds like she may be ready to be on her own...perhaps not in regards to her education, but she seems pretty capable of taking care of herself. Maybe its time for her to start shopping for some place closer to her work so she walk. Maybe one of her girlfriend's would like to share a place? I was just under 19 when I got my first apt and even though I barely made a living, I eeked out an existence and still had time and money to play. It taught me a lot. I can look back now and see that I was a difficult child in some ways myself and a little push won't hurt. Sink or swim, as they say.</p><p></p><p>Best of luck figuring it out.</p><p></p><p>ps: I hope our difficult child does not test us much because making her leave will be heartbreaking for me. But I will do it if I have to.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 91149, member: 2211"] ravengal, for sure it is a Catch-22 situation. I know how that feels - it's like you're trying to negotiate with a tree. We told difficult child that if she didn't work or go to school, she would not be allowed to live here. She stayed at a friend's house for a few days before we shipped her off to her dad's and all she kept saying was that she wanted to live at home and would do anything to do so. She said, "I realized I'm not ready to be on my own. I'm not ready anyway. I miss my bed and my puppy." It was kind of pathetic, actually, she sounded so immature for her age. But then, she IS a difficult child, after all. Your daughter sounds like she may be ready to be on her own...perhaps not in regards to her education, but she seems pretty capable of taking care of herself. Maybe its time for her to start shopping for some place closer to her work so she walk. Maybe one of her girlfriend's would like to share a place? I was just under 19 when I got my first apt and even though I barely made a living, I eeked out an existence and still had time and money to play. It taught me a lot. I can look back now and see that I was a difficult child in some ways myself and a little push won't hurt. Sink or swim, as they say. Best of luck figuring it out. ps: I hope our difficult child does not test us much because making her leave will be heartbreaking for me. But I will do it if I have to. [/QUOTE]
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