I'm so glad to have found this board & I'm hopeful to find others in my shoes to get info from.... My son will be 3 in just a couple months... He was adopted at birth by us. He has always been a difficult raise... Colicy baby... always wanted to be held or bounced. I can remember sitting at adoption meetings & all the other babies would either lay on their blankets on the floor & play or sleep in their carseats... Our little guy would cry unless he was being bounced & walked around the room the whole time. He's been a pretty good sleeper for the most part.... Started sleeping through the night at 3 months & still naps well too. He was late to roll over and crawl, but not so much that I was ever super concerned. He walked the day he turned 1, so I didn't feel like we had any signifigant physical delays. He has no motor skill problems whatsoever... Works great with his hands & is very very active... Always running, jumping, etc... He rarely walks anywhere. Our biggest issues is tantrums. He can NOT hear "no"... If you tell him no for anything, you're guarenteed to have a tantrum break out. He has a tantrum before bed and naptime EVERY SINGLE DAY and has for as long as I can remember. We are very VERY "strict" so to speak.... meaning, we don't give in. I could understand tantrums if he thought it could get him somewhere, but we never give in, which makes me concerned about why he continues to do this. Also, his tantrums involve lots of kicking, hitting, biting, screaming, crying, etc... Throwing himself on the floor or doing the "loose fish" thing so you can't get ahold of him are typical behaviors for him. Once a meltdown starts, there's no stopping it until he's in the corner for a few minutes. I've pretty much given up on taking him into public. If I do take him somewhere, he has to be strapped into something... cart, stroller, etc... because otherwise he will get into everything & then throw himself on the ground into a huge tantrum when he gets told "no" for that. He gets kicked out of the nursery at church because he just cries the whole time, however, he acts like an angel when he's with either of our parents (his grandparents). His speach is delayed as well, though I'm not sure how much. Our pediatrician told me about 6 months ago that I shouldnt worry about getting EI for that until he's 3, though I did have him evaluated anyways and he tested okay for everything except speach. He doesn't use words like "I" "our" "yours" etc... and I don't know that he understand things like "love" "I'm sorry" etc... (things that aren't tangible). I've also never seen him show remorse when he's injured someone. His attention span is pretty much nil. He'll start a movie and within 10 minutes wants to watch a different one. Start playing with one toy and 5 minutes later switches to another. He still "mouths" toys/hands (sometimes more than others). Destroys everything he can get his hands on (DEMOLISHED the entire thing of mini-blinds in his bedroom... ripped them into a million pieces and shoved them into the baseboard of the room.... I was not happy.)... rips all his books/stickers/etc... I'm sure I'm forgetting some things but that's the basics. He is a sweet kid as well (when he's not making me a crazy person) and I love him to peices. He did not test positive for drugs or alcohol at birth, but my husband saw several empty hard liquor bottles in the back of the birthmoms car at the hospital, so I'm being realistic that it's a possibility that she drank during her pregnancy at some point. Thank you for any and all input! We're going to take him to the pediatrician this week hopefully to talk about our concerns.... My husband has been very worried about him for a long time, but I have just recently come to terms with the fact that there could be something really wrong. Finally seeing that is scary, but I've carried alot of guilt that I'm just a horrible mother, so I hope to be able to work through that now that I'm realizing that something isn't right.