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<blockquote data-quote="Zora" data-source="post: 495272" data-attributes="member: 13532"><p>Wow, I'm surprised at all of the responses already, this is wonderful. As someone mentioned, no one really understands when I try to explain how difficult he is or I get "the look" from other parents when he acts out. I'll try to answer all of the questions.</p><p></p><p>As far as his evaluations, no, it wasn't as thorough as you are all suggesting. It was questionnaires for me and his teacher, he talked to him and he did a fine motor assessment.</p><p></p><p>Luke didn't have any trauma when he was a baby, his biggest upset was when he was 3 husband deployed to Iraq for 15 months. That was when the separation anxiety started. He has gotten over that for the most part and has no problem going to school, but I still can't leave him in a daycare, he panics, I'm not sure why, but he does better with school where he can leave me instead of me leaving him. </p><p></p><p>Sleep has really always been an issue. As a baby he would only sleep if husband or I was holding him, part of the problem we figured out was constipation and once we dealt with that he started sleeping better, but when husband left for Iraq the only way I could get him to sleep was to let him watch a kids' dvd on tv to distract him enough so he would be still long enough to sleep. Then I would put him in his bed and he would get up every night and get in mine. When he started kindergarten we put a stop to it by putting 3 pennies in front of his door and told him if he stayed in his room all night he could keep them, but every time he came out (except to potty) he would lose a penny. It worked great, but he still wakes up about 3 nights a week, only now he comes downstairs and turns the tv on really quietly and watches disney channel until he falls back asleep on the couch instead of getting in bed with me (he does get me if he's sick or has a bad dream).</p><p></p><p>Interaction: He's always been affectionate, made eye contact, but he couldn't really talk until he was almost 3. Then he would leave the endings off of words and was difficult to understand. We had him tested at 4 and he failed the hearing test so he ended up with tubes in his ears, then he started therapy. He seems to always need to be the center of attention at home, he constantly wants me and whines when I'm busy with someone else. He almost seems incapable of occupying himself. He is happiest when he is playing sports, someone mentioned that, yes, I have him in a sport every season plus he's in a bowling league on Saturday. If he's bored he starts annoying others so I try to keep him busy. That's actually gotten to be a peaceful time for me, sitting on the bleachers watching him because there's no discipline involved, just "good job" and "here's your water bottle".</p><p></p><p>He also isn't afraid to try anything. He loves to skateboard, ride his bike, and recently learned to ice skate. His aunt and uncle took him to an ice skating rink and he just went out on the ice and started skating. So then he decided he loved it and asked me to take him so I did and I watched him try to spin on the skates and he would fall down, get back up and try it again over and over. I'd say "are you all right?" He'd say "yeah, I'm fine. Watch this!" He only tells me he's hurt if he's bleeding, blood upsets him, otherwise I'll be bathing him and ask him where a bruise came from and half the time he has no idea.</p><p></p><p>The one thing he does seem to be outgrowing is some of the more violent behaviors. He used to hit, kick or throw things when he was angry, usually at his siblings. He still does occasionally, but it seems like the more typical sibling fighting now. He doesn't hit me or threaten me at all. Now it's just inanimate objects. We recently got a puppy and I have no concerns at all that he would intentionally hurt her. No tics, arm flapping, anything like that. His teacher feels that he doesn't make eye contact or carry on conversations well. I'm not sure if I agree or not, it's not something that's obvious if there's a problem.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Zora, post: 495272, member: 13532"] Wow, I'm surprised at all of the responses already, this is wonderful. As someone mentioned, no one really understands when I try to explain how difficult he is or I get "the look" from other parents when he acts out. I'll try to answer all of the questions. As far as his evaluations, no, it wasn't as thorough as you are all suggesting. It was questionnaires for me and his teacher, he talked to him and he did a fine motor assessment. Luke didn't have any trauma when he was a baby, his biggest upset was when he was 3 husband deployed to Iraq for 15 months. That was when the separation anxiety started. He has gotten over that for the most part and has no problem going to school, but I still can't leave him in a daycare, he panics, I'm not sure why, but he does better with school where he can leave me instead of me leaving him. Sleep has really always been an issue. As a baby he would only sleep if husband or I was holding him, part of the problem we figured out was constipation and once we dealt with that he started sleeping better, but when husband left for Iraq the only way I could get him to sleep was to let him watch a kids' dvd on tv to distract him enough so he would be still long enough to sleep. Then I would put him in his bed and he would get up every night and get in mine. When he started kindergarten we put a stop to it by putting 3 pennies in front of his door and told him if he stayed in his room all night he could keep them, but every time he came out (except to potty) he would lose a penny. It worked great, but he still wakes up about 3 nights a week, only now he comes downstairs and turns the tv on really quietly and watches disney channel until he falls back asleep on the couch instead of getting in bed with me (he does get me if he's sick or has a bad dream). Interaction: He's always been affectionate, made eye contact, but he couldn't really talk until he was almost 3. Then he would leave the endings off of words and was difficult to understand. We had him tested at 4 and he failed the hearing test so he ended up with tubes in his ears, then he started therapy. He seems to always need to be the center of attention at home, he constantly wants me and whines when I'm busy with someone else. He almost seems incapable of occupying himself. He is happiest when he is playing sports, someone mentioned that, yes, I have him in a sport every season plus he's in a bowling league on Saturday. If he's bored he starts annoying others so I try to keep him busy. That's actually gotten to be a peaceful time for me, sitting on the bleachers watching him because there's no discipline involved, just "good job" and "here's your water bottle". He also isn't afraid to try anything. He loves to skateboard, ride his bike, and recently learned to ice skate. His aunt and uncle took him to an ice skating rink and he just went out on the ice and started skating. So then he decided he loved it and asked me to take him so I did and I watched him try to spin on the skates and he would fall down, get back up and try it again over and over. I'd say "are you all right?" He'd say "yeah, I'm fine. Watch this!" He only tells me he's hurt if he's bleeding, blood upsets him, otherwise I'll be bathing him and ask him where a bruise came from and half the time he has no idea. The one thing he does seem to be outgrowing is some of the more violent behaviors. He used to hit, kick or throw things when he was angry, usually at his siblings. He still does occasionally, but it seems like the more typical sibling fighting now. He doesn't hit me or threaten me at all. Now it's just inanimate objects. We recently got a puppy and I have no concerns at all that he would intentionally hurt her. No tics, arm flapping, anything like that. His teacher feels that he doesn't make eye contact or carry on conversations well. I'm not sure if I agree or not, it's not something that's obvious if there's a problem. [/QUOTE]
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