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New here and at my wit's end with Aspergers male teen (sorry. its kind of long)
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<blockquote data-quote="JJJ" data-source="post: 383691" data-attributes="member: 1169"><p>Welcome Angela,</p><p></p><p>I'm so glad that you found us. While it would work wonderfully with a neurotypical child, to be honest, I think your way of trying to correct Cameron is adding to the problems. You cannot punish him into 'getting' it. </p><p></p><p>I would strongly recommend the book "Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships" by Grandin and Barron. It is a great look into the mind of someone with Aspergers/Autism. </p><p></p><p>WRT the lying, he may truly feel that he is not lying. He is likely very literal and he also may take different parts of the interaction to be important. For example, if he was told he could have something later and a little way later he took it, you may accuse him of stealing it because you hadn't told him he could take it (but you did --in his understanding--by saying he could have it later. He didn't get that he would need to ask again later...)</p><p></p><p>WRT taking the games, he is likely only seeing that as random meanness from you. I use to do that with Eeyore until I figured out that he wasn't connecting me taking the games with the behavior I wanted him to correct, so to him I was random and mean. And the behavior did not get corrected.</p><p></p><p>As far as slamming the door, have you asked him why he feels the need to slam the door? Sometimes with annoying behaviors, if I can get Eeyore to explain why he is doing them, we can find an alternate behavior or an environmental accommodation that works for everyone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JJJ, post: 383691, member: 1169"] Welcome Angela, I'm so glad that you found us. While it would work wonderfully with a neurotypical child, to be honest, I think your way of trying to correct Cameron is adding to the problems. You cannot punish him into 'getting' it. I would strongly recommend the book "Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships" by Grandin and Barron. It is a great look into the mind of someone with Aspergers/Autism. WRT the lying, he may truly feel that he is not lying. He is likely very literal and he also may take different parts of the interaction to be important. For example, if he was told he could have something later and a little way later he took it, you may accuse him of stealing it because you hadn't told him he could take it (but you did --in his understanding--by saying he could have it later. He didn't get that he would need to ask again later...) WRT taking the games, he is likely only seeing that as random meanness from you. I use to do that with Eeyore until I figured out that he wasn't connecting me taking the games with the behavior I wanted him to correct, so to him I was random and mean. And the behavior did not get corrected. As far as slamming the door, have you asked him why he feels the need to slam the door? Sometimes with annoying behaviors, if I can get Eeyore to explain why he is doing them, we can find an alternate behavior or an environmental accommodation that works for everyone. [/QUOTE]
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