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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 618432" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I agree with the others. He is a grown man and has to be held accountable for his choices. You and your mother have enabled him and in order for YOU to take your life back, you have to stop. There is a good article on detachment at the bottom of my post here, you might find it helpful. It is imperative for all of us here on the PE side of the forum to stop the flow of money to our adult kids. As for your mother, it is time to tell your mother what it is YOU want, it is time for both you and your mother to stop enabling your son and allow him to begin the process of growing up, or not. But whatever he does, it is not your responsibility any longer. It is his. It is usually important for those of us here to seek professional counseling or some method of support to learn how to detach from our adult kids. We need to change old patterns we've been acting out of for a very long time and that usually requires help. Find some support for yourself to make the changes necessary to detach from your son and your mother. Wishing you peace. Keep posting, it helps.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 618432, member: 13542"] I agree with the others. He is a grown man and has to be held accountable for his choices. You and your mother have enabled him and in order for YOU to take your life back, you have to stop. There is a good article on detachment at the bottom of my post here, you might find it helpful. It is imperative for all of us here on the PE side of the forum to stop the flow of money to our adult kids. As for your mother, it is time to tell your mother what it is YOU want, it is time for both you and your mother to stop enabling your son and allow him to begin the process of growing up, or not. But whatever he does, it is not your responsibility any longer. It is his. It is usually important for those of us here to seek professional counseling or some method of support to learn how to detach from our adult kids. We need to change old patterns we've been acting out of for a very long time and that usually requires help. Find some support for yourself to make the changes necessary to detach from your son and your mother. Wishing you peace. Keep posting, it helps. [/QUOTE]
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