thegoodmother
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I'll try to make this short but give some needed details. My son who is in his 30's lies more than he tells the truth. He started smoking pot and shop lifting in middle school. I had him very young and with my mothers help gave him a good life. The problem is, my mother has gave him everything from money, free vehicles, even a house and to many other things to name. She has always "bailed him out" financially when he was married and supported his children. I am still fairly young but work full time and don't have time to raise his children on a daily basis. The mother of the children (his ex-wife) isn't fit to raise them but does have custody of them. My son who is ordered to pay child support will not pay the support and even went as far as making up fake receipts and showed them to me so I would think he was paying his child support! He faked a break in at his house and even filled out a police report. He actually stole the items and pawned them and didn't want his girl friend to know. He went as far to steal my jewelry and my mothers jewelry and also pawned it. Unfortunately is was melted down before we noticed it missing. I pressed charges and so did the police for filing a false police report. All he got was a week in jail and drug counseling for a month. He wanted to better his life so I took him in to live with my husband and other children about 6 moths ago. We gave him a car that he was to make payments on so he could work. Well..everything is the same as it was before. Nothing but lies and more lies....stole money from me which he still denies and found pot in his bedroom which he knows isn't aloud in our home. I want to kick him out but the problem is my mother keeps pressuring me to let him stay and making me feel guilty! He's been in counseling for depression but quit going. I've gave him chances over and over for years and this time I'm done. He has lived with his father but did the same thing to him, so no more support there. I just don't understand the constant lies! He is ruining my family and seems to have no remorse. I have other children to care for but it seems all of my time is focused on him. Am I wrong to tell my mother to but out and just put him out of the house this time?? Any advice would be so great.