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<blockquote data-quote="thegoodmother" data-source="post: 618671" data-attributes="member: 17617"><p>I can only say thank you all so much for your advice. I feel so fortunate that I stumbled across this forum a few days ago. To find people who can give me straight forward, honest advice is amazing. The reason for the child support receipts is because I told him that he couldn't live under my roof unless he took care of his children. That is why I was asking for the receipts. Of course it blew up in my face. I had an honest discussion with him and he was told the games were over....lying at his age is embarrasing and he isn't even good at it which makes it worse. He was also told that he has a couple weeks to find his own place and there will be no excuses. I also told him my energy needs to be focused on my 11 year old and my daughter that just moved away to college. I feel pretty good about it and not feeling guilty anymore. I just want to say that all your advice is great and it made me feel so much better and making him move out. Echolette made the comment that I cant control what my mother says or thinks and I need to control how I act to it. That really struck me because that is absolutely right. I have actually been encouraging her behavior because I know now that I've been feeding into what she says by talking to her about it when she calls. Thank you for that because it opened my eyes! Also, I am ordering the book that was suggested and cant wait to read it. Unfortunately where I live there is no counseling for me to go too. I will continue to come here to seek advice that has already helped me so much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="thegoodmother, post: 618671, member: 17617"] I can only say thank you all so much for your advice. I feel so fortunate that I stumbled across this forum a few days ago. To find people who can give me straight forward, honest advice is amazing. The reason for the child support receipts is because I told him that he couldn't live under my roof unless he took care of his children. That is why I was asking for the receipts. Of course it blew up in my face. I had an honest discussion with him and he was told the games were over....lying at his age is embarrasing and he isn't even good at it which makes it worse. He was also told that he has a couple weeks to find his own place and there will be no excuses. I also told him my energy needs to be focused on my 11 year old and my daughter that just moved away to college. I feel pretty good about it and not feeling guilty anymore. I just want to say that all your advice is great and it made me feel so much better and making him move out. Echolette made the comment that I cant control what my mother says or thinks and I need to control how I act to it. That really struck me because that is absolutely right. I have actually been encouraging her behavior because I know now that I've been feeding into what she says by talking to her about it when she calls. Thank you for that because it opened my eyes! Also, I am ordering the book that was suggested and cant wait to read it. Unfortunately where I live there is no counseling for me to go too. I will continue to come here to seek advice that has already helped me so much. [/QUOTE]
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