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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 582929" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Welcome sefrif <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>If he is doing drugs in the home? Immediately. Otherwise, I have a rule.........school full time with decent grades or work full time and pay rent. If neither.....then there is the door. Living at home over the age of 18 is a privilege, not their right. If I had a child I thought was doing drugs......and I discovered it was true? Ehh, they'd see the door. I'm not going to enable their poor choices. </p><p></p><p>Only child I gave "notice" to was Nichole and I gave her 3 months. Plenty of time to find a full time job and a place to live. Hers was not due to lack of job/school/drugs......it was because she made an off handed remark she'd be just comfy living at home forever. Scared the daylights out of me. LOL We're close, but she needed to venture out on her own. </p><p></p><p>Many kids, especially boys, at your son's age flounder unsure of what they want to do with their life, happy with the freedom adulthood gives them and scared of the responsibility. You should be encouraging behavior that fosters independence while trying hard not to enable behavior that doesn't. </p><p></p><p>I'm going to guess he has no desire for college or a trade school? Have you tried sitting him down and asking what he'd like to do with his life, where he'd like to see himself in 10 yrs? If you can get him to talk, you might be able to help him come up with a plan to get to that point. You don't have to go to college to be successful. You just need some idea of where your interests are and what you might like to do. </p><p></p><p>Glad you found us. </p><p></p><p>((hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 582929, member: 84"] Welcome sefrif :) If he is doing drugs in the home? Immediately. Otherwise, I have a rule.........school full time with decent grades or work full time and pay rent. If neither.....then there is the door. Living at home over the age of 18 is a privilege, not their right. If I had a child I thought was doing drugs......and I discovered it was true? Ehh, they'd see the door. I'm not going to enable their poor choices. Only child I gave "notice" to was Nichole and I gave her 3 months. Plenty of time to find a full time job and a place to live. Hers was not due to lack of job/school/drugs......it was because she made an off handed remark she'd be just comfy living at home forever. Scared the daylights out of me. LOL We're close, but she needed to venture out on her own. Many kids, especially boys, at your son's age flounder unsure of what they want to do with their life, happy with the freedom adulthood gives them and scared of the responsibility. You should be encouraging behavior that fosters independence while trying hard not to enable behavior that doesn't. I'm going to guess he has no desire for college or a trade school? Have you tried sitting him down and asking what he'd like to do with his life, where he'd like to see himself in 10 yrs? If you can get him to talk, you might be able to help him come up with a plan to get to that point. You don't have to go to college to be successful. You just need some idea of where your interests are and what you might like to do. Glad you found us. ((hugs)) [/QUOTE]
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