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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 413991" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>sscan,</p><p></p><p>As a moderator, I feel I should respond to your question. More importantly, as a member I feel I understand where your question is coming from.</p><p></p><p>This board was started back in the 90's by the mom of a "difficult" child. It grew quickly as other parents of "difficult" children came out of the woodwork. As a member who found this board back in the early 2000's - and it was a true beacon of light in a dark world - I have never really questioned the "label" difficult child or easy child. It was a way to distinguish my son from my daughter without using their names and it was much quicker to type!</p><p></p><p>On a personal level, I consider both my children to be the biggest blessings in my life and true gifts from God. I would imagine that a vast majority of the members here would agree.</p><p></p><p>I was not privy (because I was not around) to the acronym decision. I can tell you though that it was a decision based with love and perhaps a little "tongue in cheek". We know there are no perfect children and in the midst of a rage, or a battle with the school, or a night in the er or the phos, or a call to 911, or the middle of giving your teen a drug test, or talking to their parole officer, or visiting them in jail, or fighting the nightly homework battle, etc., you certainly don't look at your difficult child as a gift! We always love, but don't always like.</p><p></p><p>But I think the biggest issue is the label you feel is associated with those acronyms. You know, those of us that have been around awhile, either here on the board or in the world of difficult children, don't pay much attention to labels. If our children are diagnosis'd with add, or BiPolar (BP), or ptsd, or Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD).......the name doesn't matter - what matters is the effectiveness of the treatment. We routinely tell posters here who are dismayed at the diagnosis their child has just been given - don't get caught up in the diagnosis, move forward and look at this as the opportunity to begin to treat now that you know. We often tell parents who are going through the IEP process, don't worry about the category or label they are placing on your child if it gets them the services they need to find some success in school.</p><p></p><p>I would hope that you don't find them so offensive as to become discouraged. Know that, on the whole, most of us who raise difficult child kids have rhino skins! It takes a lot to "ruffle our feathers" - you seem like a very concerned and loving mom. I hope you choose to "go with flow" and become a long time member of our site. </p><p></p><p>And, I welcome the perspective of other long and short term members. It's a little early and my brain may not be functioning at full capacity yet!!!!!!</p><p></p><p>Respectfully,</p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 413991, member: 805"] sscan, As a moderator, I feel I should respond to your question. More importantly, as a member I feel I understand where your question is coming from. This board was started back in the 90's by the mom of a "difficult" child. It grew quickly as other parents of "difficult" children came out of the woodwork. As a member who found this board back in the early 2000's - and it was a true beacon of light in a dark world - I have never really questioned the "label" difficult child or easy child. It was a way to distinguish my son from my daughter without using their names and it was much quicker to type! On a personal level, I consider both my children to be the biggest blessings in my life and true gifts from God. I would imagine that a vast majority of the members here would agree. I was not privy (because I was not around) to the acronym decision. I can tell you though that it was a decision based with love and perhaps a little "tongue in cheek". We know there are no perfect children and in the midst of a rage, or a battle with the school, or a night in the er or the phos, or a call to 911, or the middle of giving your teen a drug test, or talking to their parole officer, or visiting them in jail, or fighting the nightly homework battle, etc., you certainly don't look at your difficult child as a gift! We always love, but don't always like. But I think the biggest issue is the label you feel is associated with those acronyms. You know, those of us that have been around awhile, either here on the board or in the world of difficult children, don't pay much attention to labels. If our children are diagnosis'd with add, or BiPolar (BP), or ptsd, or Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD).......the name doesn't matter - what matters is the effectiveness of the treatment. We routinely tell posters here who are dismayed at the diagnosis their child has just been given - don't get caught up in the diagnosis, move forward and look at this as the opportunity to begin to treat now that you know. We often tell parents who are going through the IEP process, don't worry about the category or label they are placing on your child if it gets them the services they need to find some success in school. I would hope that you don't find them so offensive as to become discouraged. Know that, on the whole, most of us who raise difficult child kids have rhino skins! It takes a lot to "ruffle our feathers" - you seem like a very concerned and loving mom. I hope you choose to "go with flow" and become a long time member of our site. And, I welcome the perspective of other long and short term members. It's a little early and my brain may not be functioning at full capacity yet!!!!!! Respectfully, Sharon [/QUOTE]
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