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<blockquote data-quote="Calamity Jane" data-source="post: 530114" data-attributes="member: 13882"><p>Hi Teatime,</p><p>Welcome. I'm so sorry for the obvious anguish you're experiencing.</p><p></p><p>I will share my observations based on your post. There is nothing you should be ashamed of or feel responsible for as far as your son's present behavior is concerned. You did everything you possibly could to help him, encourage him, and give him an example of bravery and responsibility in the face of many challenges. It feels like he is betraying you, despite all your sacrifice, and that is such a heartbreak. Many of us on the substance abuse forum have been through similar experiences.</p><p>If nothing changes, he will exploit you for the rest of your life, and you will live in fear and despair. Wasting his intelligence on odd jobs for $70/wk is not contributing to your situation, and he either can't or won't get motivated to help. His thinking is obviously skewed, because he would be willing to break the law to sell your pain medication, and trust me, he would keep the money and use it for his own nefarious purposes.</p><p>Your only option is either to move out, or get him to move out. Social services or a domestic violence evaluation will help. We don't know where you live, but different states have different laws about eviction, etc. Since he's using drugs, he's breaking the law and you have the right and the privilege of living safely in your home. If you are that fearful, is there any relative you could move in with, even temporarily to get away from him?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Calamity Jane, post: 530114, member: 13882"] Hi Teatime, Welcome. I'm so sorry for the obvious anguish you're experiencing. I will share my observations based on your post. There is nothing you should be ashamed of or feel responsible for as far as your son's present behavior is concerned. You did everything you possibly could to help him, encourage him, and give him an example of bravery and responsibility in the face of many challenges. It feels like he is betraying you, despite all your sacrifice, and that is such a heartbreak. Many of us on the substance abuse forum have been through similar experiences. If nothing changes, he will exploit you for the rest of your life, and you will live in fear and despair. Wasting his intelligence on odd jobs for $70/wk is not contributing to your situation, and he either can't or won't get motivated to help. His thinking is obviously skewed, because he would be willing to break the law to sell your pain medication, and trust me, he would keep the money and use it for his own nefarious purposes. Your only option is either to move out, or get him to move out. Social services or a domestic violence evaluation will help. We don't know where you live, but different states have different laws about eviction, etc. Since he's using drugs, he's breaking the law and you have the right and the privilege of living safely in your home. If you are that fearful, is there any relative you could move in with, even temporarily to get away from him? [/QUOTE]
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