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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 530133" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Welcome to the board Teatime.</p><p></p><p>It's time for your son to leave the nest and make his own way in the world.</p><p></p><p>Human beings, some more than others, learn by the mistakes they make and the natural consequences that follow. If he is out in the world and chooses not to work he will have no where to live and nothing to eat. That is usually enough motivation for someone to find a job and keep it. He may have to trip, stumble, and fall many times before those life lessons stick......but in my opinion that is not such a bad thing. It's hard to watch for the parent, for sure, but some people just seem to have to learn the hard way. </p><p></p><p>Your son being at home is stressful to you in too many ways. He simply should not be there. Sometimes due to situations beyond our control, be it income level, health, or a wide variety of other things, parents just aren't able to help their grown kids. You've put in a lifetime teaching him what he needed to know to succeed in the adult world. It's now up to him to take that knowledge and use it. His choices as an adult, are not your choices and no reflection on you. </p><p></p><p>I would set a Move Out date, and tell him in no uncertain terms he will be out by that date, so he'd better be working and have all his ducks in a row by then. </p><p></p><p>((hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 530133, member: 84"] Welcome to the board Teatime. It's time for your son to leave the nest and make his own way in the world. Human beings, some more than others, learn by the mistakes they make and the natural consequences that follow. If he is out in the world and chooses not to work he will have no where to live and nothing to eat. That is usually enough motivation for someone to find a job and keep it. He may have to trip, stumble, and fall many times before those life lessons stick......but in my opinion that is not such a bad thing. It's hard to watch for the parent, for sure, but some people just seem to have to learn the hard way. Your son being at home is stressful to you in too many ways. He simply should not be there. Sometimes due to situations beyond our control, be it income level, health, or a wide variety of other things, parents just aren't able to help their grown kids. You've put in a lifetime teaching him what he needed to know to succeed in the adult world. It's now up to him to take that knowledge and use it. His choices as an adult, are not your choices and no reflection on you. I would set a Move Out date, and tell him in no uncertain terms he will be out by that date, so he'd better be working and have all his ducks in a row by then. ((hugs)) [/QUOTE]
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