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<blockquote data-quote="PrimaGatto" data-source="post: 582645" data-attributes="member: 16020"><p>I came here by way of Googling some help for me - a very tired, beaten up Mom of a 29 yr old difficult child daughter with undiagnosed,untreated, in denial full blown Borderline (BPD). Classic functioning, she blew up with it around 20 yrs old. I saw your post and after reading just 2 lines knew I was reading the post of a kindred Mom. I'm new here too. It's so hard isn't it? When they aren't on the "cutting" end of the Borderline (BPD) spectrum, it doesn't mean they don't do something violent to get the release. Many of them get the release through the violent, verbal assaults on us. Us - the ones who won't walk away and never come back. Because we are attached to them like nobody else. They are our flesh and blood. I am at work, got "the call", carefully tried to defuse things a little to calm her down or "help", there is just no way. It always ends the same. The high pitched, violent, raging, what I call "red zone" verbal violence. Yes, with all the lies, and "crazy" accusations. I have gotten good at separating myself from it - I understand what's happening so don't take it personally. But it's still just so sad - and you feel so wiped out, low and exhausted after it's over. I just needed to find somebody that shared this same fate - and I'm glad I found this forum. I need it. My difficult child also has a child. The most precious 4 year old boy ever. She is a single mom. Sometimes I wake up at night with my stomach just sick over what he must have to go through at times. Anyways, I think it's good for both of us to be here. Nobody but "us" understands what this is like. Humans are not very tolerant of other humans with mental health issues. We need to support each other. Another hug for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PrimaGatto, post: 582645, member: 16020"] I came here by way of Googling some help for me - a very tired, beaten up Mom of a 29 yr old difficult child daughter with undiagnosed,untreated, in denial full blown Borderline (BPD). Classic functioning, she blew up with it around 20 yrs old. I saw your post and after reading just 2 lines knew I was reading the post of a kindred Mom. I'm new here too. It's so hard isn't it? When they aren't on the "cutting" end of the Borderline (BPD) spectrum, it doesn't mean they don't do something violent to get the release. Many of them get the release through the violent, verbal assaults on us. Us - the ones who won't walk away and never come back. Because we are attached to them like nobody else. They are our flesh and blood. I am at work, got "the call", carefully tried to defuse things a little to calm her down or "help", there is just no way. It always ends the same. The high pitched, violent, raging, what I call "red zone" verbal violence. Yes, with all the lies, and "crazy" accusations. I have gotten good at separating myself from it - I understand what's happening so don't take it personally. But it's still just so sad - and you feel so wiped out, low and exhausted after it's over. I just needed to find somebody that shared this same fate - and I'm glad I found this forum. I need it. My difficult child also has a child. The most precious 4 year old boy ever. She is a single mom. Sometimes I wake up at night with my stomach just sick over what he must have to go through at times. Anyways, I think it's good for both of us to be here. Nobody but "us" understands what this is like. Humans are not very tolerant of other humans with mental health issues. We need to support each other. Another hug for you. [/QUOTE]
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