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<blockquote data-quote="katya02" data-source="post: 403323" data-attributes="member: 2884"><p>Hi and welcome! Sorry you had to find us here, but glad you did. What a situation. The law regarding what you can and can't do with your difficult child's things probably varies from state to state,</p><p>so consulting an attorney would probably be your best bet. Checking with the sheriff's office will let you know how evictions usually go, although they wouldn't give you formal legal advice.</p><p>I imagine they'd be very helpful, and you could run your situation by them. </p><p></p><p>If your difficult child is already away and is not planning on coming back by the deadline, and you have some evidence that she knows about the deadline (even texts or emails?), I would think you can</p><p>change the locks then to be sure she or one of her friends doesn't have a key. I would think that, once she's been away a certain length of time, she would be considered to have abandoned</p><p>the premises and her belongings and you would be free to do as you wish with them - but some formal legal advice would let you sleep better. You don't have any obligation to permanently hang</p><p>onto and care for her things. </p><p></p><p>Her 'plan' for living on her own is going to go sour when she finds out that SSI is not easy for 19 year olds to get, and without extensive recent medical records she'll be unsuccessful. She will have</p><p>to go to plan B, whatever that may be, and won't likely have funds to try to sue you from another state. She might have a hard time persuading an attorney to take her case on contingency when</p><p>the 'award' is her hoarder's stash of stuff (or its value, which wouldn't likely be much when independently assessed). </p><p></p><p>You must be breathing a sigh of relief right now - sounds like you've had a bad time in the past few years. I would check with a lawyer, follow his/her advice, change my locks and enjoy the quiet - and</p><p>try not to get pulled back into the inevitable drama when your difficult child doesn't get her way. I'm sure others will have better information and more suggestions ...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="katya02, post: 403323, member: 2884"] Hi and welcome! Sorry you had to find us here, but glad you did. What a situation. The law regarding what you can and can't do with your difficult child's things probably varies from state to state, so consulting an attorney would probably be your best bet. Checking with the sheriff's office will let you know how evictions usually go, although they wouldn't give you formal legal advice. I imagine they'd be very helpful, and you could run your situation by them. If your difficult child is already away and is not planning on coming back by the deadline, and you have some evidence that she knows about the deadline (even texts or emails?), I would think you can change the locks then to be sure she or one of her friends doesn't have a key. I would think that, once she's been away a certain length of time, she would be considered to have abandoned the premises and her belongings and you would be free to do as you wish with them - but some formal legal advice would let you sleep better. You don't have any obligation to permanently hang onto and care for her things. Her 'plan' for living on her own is going to go sour when she finds out that SSI is not easy for 19 year olds to get, and without extensive recent medical records she'll be unsuccessful. She will have to go to plan B, whatever that may be, and won't likely have funds to try to sue you from another state. She might have a hard time persuading an attorney to take her case on contingency when the 'award' is her hoarder's stash of stuff (or its value, which wouldn't likely be much when independently assessed). You must be breathing a sigh of relief right now - sounds like you've had a bad time in the past few years. I would check with a lawyer, follow his/her advice, change my locks and enjoy the quiet - and try not to get pulled back into the inevitable drama when your difficult child doesn't get her way. I'm sure others will have better information and more suggestions ... [/QUOTE]
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