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<blockquote data-quote="troubled" data-source="post: 404302"><p>To toughlovin: Sounds like you had a hard time with your son. I'm really sorry that you are still going through this. Are you thinking that if he shows improvement you'll let him return to your home? I don't want my difficult child back here. She's burned a lot of bridges with me and I will be hurting for a long time over the way she has treated me. Words hurt - and once spoken, you can't take them back. I would never tell my mother I wish she would die (knowing I have physical ailments) and "I should have killed you a long time ago". That's just a few of the things she has said.</p><p></p><p></p><p>To Steely: Yes, it is hard on me. It has always been hard. I had to raise this girl myself without help from her difficult child father. Living with him was He!! and I left that marriage only to find I had to deal with a hateful child that is a lot like him. I would be afraid - seriously - to toss difficult child's stuff out to take it to the dump or even donate it. One time she tried to break my fingers by bending them back because I tried to take her cd player away from her. She has a vengeful, jealous difficult child boyfriend, too, to team up with and they like to terrorize people online for fun.</p><p></p><p>susiestar: I did some online research and found that the laws concerning tenants property are very fuzzy here. There are no set rules on how long after eviction the left behind stuff becomes yours. They suggested keeping it safe until the tenant comes to get it to avoid any liable. I don't think it's right I have to keep her stuff safe but that's what I read on some legal site. Thanks for the (hug) - I really need it.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Dammit Janet: Yes, I did give her 30 day notice to vacate. I got the papers from the court house. I had them mailed return receipt to prove she got them. I think you are right about the stuff left behind and the legal ramifications. There is no set time. There is not really much actual trash. difficult child has a lot of great stuff! Nice clothing, toys, etc. She just has way too much of it. She has got rid of some clothing that was way too small but other than that, the rest is usable items. Not all hoarders save trash. She has many collections. A whole wall full of barbie and barbie-type dolls, for example. I don't think you can get a storage unit in someone else's name. I am not physically able to move any of her things, either. I am handicapped.</p><p></p><p>MidwestMom: As ridiculous as it sounds, your child becomes a tenant with tenant rights as soon as they turn 18 and are still living in your home. That is the law in my state. You have to follow legal eviction proceedings to get them out if they don't leave willingly. Unless they do something to break the law - like physically abusing you. Who told my difficult child about that? Her ever-helpful therapist. </p><p></p><p>Hound dog: I was told once by police that if someone had belongings at your home, they could be considered living with you and you'd have to evict them if they refused to leave. I had an old boyfriend that spent the night on weekends and he went ahead and changed his address on his drivers license to mine so that if the police saw that they couldn't remove him from my apt. I had to end up leaving myself and breaking the lease because I couldn't get rid of him and his name was not even on the apt lease. </p><p></p><p>Bean: If I got a storage unit, I alone would be liable to pay on it. Not only would they confiscate the belongings, they would send it off to collections to ruin my credit. Not a good idea. </p><p></p><p> DaisyFace: I wish I could just toss her stuff to the curb! I don't want her to be able to sue me over her stuff, tho, so I am forced to "play nice" like it or not.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="troubled, post: 404302"] To toughlovin: Sounds like you had a hard time with your son. I'm really sorry that you are still going through this. Are you thinking that if he shows improvement you'll let him return to your home? I don't want my difficult child back here. She's burned a lot of bridges with me and I will be hurting for a long time over the way she has treated me. Words hurt - and once spoken, you can't take them back. I would never tell my mother I wish she would die (knowing I have physical ailments) and "I should have killed you a long time ago". That's just a few of the things she has said. To Steely: Yes, it is hard on me. It has always been hard. I had to raise this girl myself without help from her difficult child father. Living with him was He!! and I left that marriage only to find I had to deal with a hateful child that is a lot like him. I would be afraid - seriously - to toss difficult child's stuff out to take it to the dump or even donate it. One time she tried to break my fingers by bending them back because I tried to take her cd player away from her. She has a vengeful, jealous difficult child boyfriend, too, to team up with and they like to terrorize people online for fun. susiestar: I did some online research and found that the laws concerning tenants property are very fuzzy here. There are no set rules on how long after eviction the left behind stuff becomes yours. They suggested keeping it safe until the tenant comes to get it to avoid any liable. I don't think it's right I have to keep her stuff safe but that's what I read on some legal site. Thanks for the (hug) - I really need it. Dammit Janet: Yes, I did give her 30 day notice to vacate. I got the papers from the court house. I had them mailed return receipt to prove she got them. I think you are right about the stuff left behind and the legal ramifications. There is no set time. There is not really much actual trash. difficult child has a lot of great stuff! Nice clothing, toys, etc. She just has way too much of it. She has got rid of some clothing that was way too small but other than that, the rest is usable items. Not all hoarders save trash. She has many collections. A whole wall full of barbie and barbie-type dolls, for example. I don't think you can get a storage unit in someone else's name. I am not physically able to move any of her things, either. I am handicapped. MidwestMom: As ridiculous as it sounds, your child becomes a tenant with tenant rights as soon as they turn 18 and are still living in your home. That is the law in my state. You have to follow legal eviction proceedings to get them out if they don't leave willingly. Unless they do something to break the law - like physically abusing you. Who told my difficult child about that? Her ever-helpful therapist. Hound dog: I was told once by police that if someone had belongings at your home, they could be considered living with you and you'd have to evict them if they refused to leave. I had an old boyfriend that spent the night on weekends and he went ahead and changed his address on his drivers license to mine so that if the police saw that they couldn't remove him from my apt. I had to end up leaving myself and breaking the lease because I couldn't get rid of him and his name was not even on the apt lease. Bean: If I got a storage unit, I alone would be liable to pay on it. Not only would they confiscate the belongings, they would send it off to collections to ruin my credit. Not a good idea. DaisyFace: I wish I could just toss her stuff to the curb! I don't want her to be able to sue me over her stuff, tho, so I am forced to "play nice" like it or not. [/QUOTE]
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