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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 512517"><p>Welcome Shannon,</p><p></p><p>I have several thoughts on this... and unfortunately I have experience in this as my son is 20 and does have a serious drug problem, mostly pot I think but one who will try anything to get high... and who is now in rehab.</p><p></p><p>I think pot (and cigarettes) are gateway drugs in that you will find most serious drug users started with cigarettes and pot. However there are plenty of kids who smoke pot that never go on to harder drugs... so just because a kid smokes pot now and then does not mean they will become a drug addict. </p><p></p><p>I think your son has a lot going in his favor. First it sounds like you have a good relationship with him, that he basically respects you and listens to you. Secondly your son is doing well in life, in school and his job. So if he is smoking pot it is not negatively affecting his life much at this point.</p><p></p><p>So I think you need to do what you can to keep your good relationship with your son. Do what you can to strengthen that relationship. That ultimately is what will help him in the long run. You cannot control whether he smokes pot or not, and it is helpful to realize that now before trying to go down that road which doesn't work. Believe me I have tried that.</p><p></p><p>I agree that it is important to set some boundaries which it sounds like you are doing. Defintiely no pot or pot smoking in or around your house or your car. That is putting you at risk and that is unacceptable and you do not want to take that risk or have him put you at risk.</p><p></p><p>I think it would be reasonable, given your relationship to have a discussion with him about your concerns. I think I would keep it at that for now. </p><p></p><p>I probably would search his room to make sure there is not a bigger issue going on.</p><p></p><p>Then I would watch his behavor and pay attention... so if his grades drop, if he loses his job, if he starts sleeping at odd hours, if he starts smelling weird (including weird body odor), if he gets volatile emotionally, or gets more of a temper or much more irritable then pay attention to that... as those are all signs of more serious drug use. And if he starts having a lot of extra unexplained money. If you start catching him in major major lies. </p><p></p><p>If none of those things happen or start happening, then I would hold back because it probably is minor recreational use... which I understand you don't approve of but is pretty common in that age group and something you cannot control. </p><p></p><p>Hope this helps... I know it is a worry.</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 512517"] Welcome Shannon, I have several thoughts on this... and unfortunately I have experience in this as my son is 20 and does have a serious drug problem, mostly pot I think but one who will try anything to get high... and who is now in rehab. I think pot (and cigarettes) are gateway drugs in that you will find most serious drug users started with cigarettes and pot. However there are plenty of kids who smoke pot that never go on to harder drugs... so just because a kid smokes pot now and then does not mean they will become a drug addict. I think your son has a lot going in his favor. First it sounds like you have a good relationship with him, that he basically respects you and listens to you. Secondly your son is doing well in life, in school and his job. So if he is smoking pot it is not negatively affecting his life much at this point. So I think you need to do what you can to keep your good relationship with your son. Do what you can to strengthen that relationship. That ultimately is what will help him in the long run. You cannot control whether he smokes pot or not, and it is helpful to realize that now before trying to go down that road which doesn't work. Believe me I have tried that. I agree that it is important to set some boundaries which it sounds like you are doing. Defintiely no pot or pot smoking in or around your house or your car. That is putting you at risk and that is unacceptable and you do not want to take that risk or have him put you at risk. I think it would be reasonable, given your relationship to have a discussion with him about your concerns. I think I would keep it at that for now. I probably would search his room to make sure there is not a bigger issue going on. Then I would watch his behavor and pay attention... so if his grades drop, if he loses his job, if he starts sleeping at odd hours, if he starts smelling weird (including weird body odor), if he gets volatile emotionally, or gets more of a temper or much more irritable then pay attention to that... as those are all signs of more serious drug use. And if he starts having a lot of extra unexplained money. If you start catching him in major major lies. If none of those things happen or start happening, then I would hold back because it probably is minor recreational use... which I understand you don't approve of but is pretty common in that age group and something you cannot control. Hope this helps... I know it is a worry. TL [/QUOTE]
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