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<blockquote data-quote="Zardo" data-source="post: 512634" data-attributes="member: 12490"><p>Welcome. I think you have gotten some very good advice. I lived through the nightmare of losing my loving 14 year old son to pot obsession. We have spent two years fighting to get him back. He is so much better now, but I am very wary of the dangers of pot use. When I read your story, it sounds like recreational use....somthing to keep an eye on and communicate about, but not to panic about or "call out the dogs". Unfortunately, pot is SO much of the culture of the high school and college crowd these days. I don't approve in any way, but there is a difference between an occasional user who is functioning within the bounds of normalcy in their life and someone who has become completely enveloped in the culture of drug use, no longer values things like education or hard work, uses to the point of it affecting their emotions and ability to function in your home, hold a job or anything productive. My sister's college age kids are functioning pot smokers. She hates it, but they are respectful, hold down decent jobs, get good grades, etc. After fighting the constant presence of pot in her home, in their pockets when she did their laundry, in the cars, standing outside of their homes with their friends, etc. she developed boundaries that have helped her to keep a loving relationship with her boys through this time in their life. Their rules is no drugs in the house, period. Since they violated that rule many times, she then told them that they need to get apartments of their own. The door is open at her house, they have great family dinners when they visit, which is often, but she and her H could not handle their home being used as a partying hang out. Finding pot and paraphenalia around her home on a weekly basis made her unsettled in her own home. So, I guess the key is the level of use and the level of functioning in their lives. The percent of young people that use pot is huge, I believe it to be even higher than what is formally known, but that doesn't mean that everyone that uses it has a problem. Watch his behavior and level of functioning at school, in his job, interpersonally at home. Let him know what your boundaries are in your home and if you pay for his car. Draw your line that you can live with. Either he will choose to respect your line or not. If he cannot, you can decide if it's time for him to get his own place. It wouldn't be a bad lesson anyway and he would have less $$ for partying.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Zardo, post: 512634, member: 12490"] Welcome. I think you have gotten some very good advice. I lived through the nightmare of losing my loving 14 year old son to pot obsession. We have spent two years fighting to get him back. He is so much better now, but I am very wary of the dangers of pot use. When I read your story, it sounds like recreational use....somthing to keep an eye on and communicate about, but not to panic about or "call out the dogs". Unfortunately, pot is SO much of the culture of the high school and college crowd these days. I don't approve in any way, but there is a difference between an occasional user who is functioning within the bounds of normalcy in their life and someone who has become completely enveloped in the culture of drug use, no longer values things like education or hard work, uses to the point of it affecting their emotions and ability to function in your home, hold a job or anything productive. My sister's college age kids are functioning pot smokers. She hates it, but they are respectful, hold down decent jobs, get good grades, etc. After fighting the constant presence of pot in her home, in their pockets when she did their laundry, in the cars, standing outside of their homes with their friends, etc. she developed boundaries that have helped her to keep a loving relationship with her boys through this time in their life. Their rules is no drugs in the house, period. Since they violated that rule many times, she then told them that they need to get apartments of their own. The door is open at her house, they have great family dinners when they visit, which is often, but she and her H could not handle their home being used as a partying hang out. Finding pot and paraphenalia around her home on a weekly basis made her unsettled in her own home. So, I guess the key is the level of use and the level of functioning in their lives. The percent of young people that use pot is huge, I believe it to be even higher than what is formally known, but that doesn't mean that everyone that uses it has a problem. Watch his behavior and level of functioning at school, in his job, interpersonally at home. Let him know what your boundaries are in your home and if you pay for his car. Draw your line that you can live with. Either he will choose to respect your line or not. If he cannot, you can decide if it's time for him to get his own place. It wouldn't be a bad lesson anyway and he would have less $$ for partying. [/QUOTE]
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