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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 379825" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>RPS,</p><p></p><p>Welcome. First, I congratulate all four of you for putting the children first and working together. It is known that children in trouble have a much better outcome if all the parents are on the same page. </p><p></p><p>It's good that you caught this early in your son and you are very smart to keep your antenna up and not believe what he is saying about quitting. From my experience, pot use and drinking escalates and throw in some pill use and you have a big problem. My difficult child is 19 and currently in a resdential drug treatment program about an hour and a half away. This program has been a godsend to us but it was a process. We had to exhaust all other avenues of counseling and outpatient programs before her use became so bad that she was ready for inpatient. I'm still not sure if she was at rock bottom enough for the program to stick but she was pretty low and ready to accept change. She has been there 50 days now and will be cominghome Oct. 3. She then starts an intense outpatient program all geared to helping her learn how to live substance free. The surprising thing to me was that almost all of the people in the treatment center are young adults 18-25. I thought most would be older and she wouldn't be able to relate. This disease is getting our kids younger and younger.</p><p></p><p>You are doing all the right things by removing cell phone and computer access. Those two devices enable our difficult child's to gain access to addictive substances much easier than in the past. Of course they can still get them, but it puts a barrier up. Also it's good that you are checking into what cousneling services are available. In our experience counseling didn't do much good but it did start the ball rolling on letting her know we acknowledged the problem and that we would seek any means of treatment available.</p><p></p><p>If your son is an addict his use will escalate and he will end up in a treatment center, which may be his best chance. If he is not an addict and he is like many other young people who can use and not have it affect their life adversely, he is lucky. But you can't take the chance. I knew my difficult child was an addict before she picked up her first drink or smoked her first joint.</p><p></p><p>One thing the treatment center stresses is that the family has to draw the line in the sand for their loved one. If his use gets to the point where it is really serious the line in the sand could be that unless he gets help he can't live there anymore. I know this is scarey and you have a long way to go before that point but just keep in the back of your mind that there may come a time when you have to draw that line in the sand to save his life.</p><p></p><p>I'm glad you found us and there are a lot of members who will give you tremendous support.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 379825, member: 59"] RPS, Welcome. First, I congratulate all four of you for putting the children first and working together. It is known that children in trouble have a much better outcome if all the parents are on the same page. It's good that you caught this early in your son and you are very smart to keep your antenna up and not believe what he is saying about quitting. From my experience, pot use and drinking escalates and throw in some pill use and you have a big problem. My difficult child is 19 and currently in a resdential drug treatment program about an hour and a half away. This program has been a godsend to us but it was a process. We had to exhaust all other avenues of counseling and outpatient programs before her use became so bad that she was ready for inpatient. I'm still not sure if she was at rock bottom enough for the program to stick but she was pretty low and ready to accept change. She has been there 50 days now and will be cominghome Oct. 3. She then starts an intense outpatient program all geared to helping her learn how to live substance free. The surprising thing to me was that almost all of the people in the treatment center are young adults 18-25. I thought most would be older and she wouldn't be able to relate. This disease is getting our kids younger and younger. You are doing all the right things by removing cell phone and computer access. Those two devices enable our difficult child's to gain access to addictive substances much easier than in the past. Of course they can still get them, but it puts a barrier up. Also it's good that you are checking into what cousneling services are available. In our experience counseling didn't do much good but it did start the ball rolling on letting her know we acknowledged the problem and that we would seek any means of treatment available. If your son is an addict his use will escalate and he will end up in a treatment center, which may be his best chance. If he is not an addict and he is like many other young people who can use and not have it affect their life adversely, he is lucky. But you can't take the chance. I knew my difficult child was an addict before she picked up her first drink or smoked her first joint. One thing the treatment center stresses is that the family has to draw the line in the sand for their loved one. If his use gets to the point where it is really serious the line in the sand could be that unless he gets help he can't live there anymore. I know this is scarey and you have a long way to go before that point but just keep in the back of your mind that there may come a time when you have to draw that line in the sand to save his life. I'm glad you found us and there are a lot of members who will give you tremendous support. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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