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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 414741" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>Hi, Stretched, and welcome to my world... My SD, Onyxx, is 16 now, and was molested (bio mom's boyfriend) from ages 11-13. We can't find a counselor she can build a rapport with, either - the last one was her "favorite", and she quit talking when the counselor brought the parents in for a family session. She doesn't "need" counseling. She can figure it out on her own. Onyxx won't sleep with an open door - panic attack. I'm betting your daughter won't sleep alone because she instinctively feels the safety in numbers.</p><p></p><p>From my experience, there are a few things you can do... Or at least try.</p><p> </p><p>One, call the cops when she becomes abusive. Report unruly child; domestic violence; mentally ill violent child; these are all things we have used. She may self-calm when she realizes they are coming. If you have a webcam and can get her on video during a rage, it will help. If you have injuries, make sure the police take pictures and/or document them. You may also wish to request they transport her to a mental health facility. You and your other daughter do NOT deserve to live like this.</p><p> </p><p>Two, keep her in counseling. Whether she develops a rapport or not. You may end up switching counselors a LOT. Do it anyway. Do NOT, however, let the counselor tell you it is YOUR FAULT. It is not.</p><p> </p><p>Three, I'll be honest, Zoloft made Onyxx worse. Abilify? Intensified her rages. The only thing that <em>really</em> worked, so far as we could tell, was risperidone. BUT, caveat here, since all people are different... (Zoloft was pointless with me - citalopram was a miracle drug...)</p><p> </p><p>PTSD can manifest in many different ways. But keep in mind - some soldiers who were held captive and tortured could and do become violent with loved ones - where they are <em>safe</em>. In a way, hasn't she been tortured? And held captive, in her own mind?</p><p> </p><p>{{{{{HUGS}}}}} PM me if you want, been there done that and it really stinks. This place has kept me sane for the last 2+ years.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 414741, member: 6705"] Hi, Stretched, and welcome to my world... My SD, Onyxx, is 16 now, and was molested (bio mom's boyfriend) from ages 11-13. We can't find a counselor she can build a rapport with, either - the last one was her "favorite", and she quit talking when the counselor brought the parents in for a family session. She doesn't "need" counseling. She can figure it out on her own. Onyxx won't sleep with an open door - panic attack. I'm betting your daughter won't sleep alone because she instinctively feels the safety in numbers. From my experience, there are a few things you can do... Or at least try. One, call the cops when she becomes abusive. Report unruly child; domestic violence; mentally ill violent child; these are all things we have used. She may self-calm when she realizes they are coming. If you have a webcam and can get her on video during a rage, it will help. If you have injuries, make sure the police take pictures and/or document them. You may also wish to request they transport her to a mental health facility. You and your other daughter do NOT deserve to live like this. Two, keep her in counseling. Whether she develops a rapport or not. You may end up switching counselors a LOT. Do it anyway. Do NOT, however, let the counselor tell you it is YOUR FAULT. It is not. Three, I'll be honest, Zoloft made Onyxx worse. Abilify? Intensified her rages. The only thing that [I]really[/I] worked, so far as we could tell, was risperidone. BUT, caveat here, since all people are different... (Zoloft was pointless with me - citalopram was a miracle drug...) PTSD can manifest in many different ways. But keep in mind - some soldiers who were held captive and tortured could and do become violent with loved ones - where they are [I]safe[/I]. In a way, hasn't she been tortured? And held captive, in her own mind? {{{{{HUGS}}}}} PM me if you want, been there done that and it really stinks. This place has kept me sane for the last 2+ years. [/QUOTE]
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