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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 622483" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Bluebell, I believe everything you said about his upbringing. My son was not brought up to cuss at me, slap me, disrespect me, become addicted to porn, steal from us, and do some things that I'm ashamed to post, but trust me they are bad and he was raised only with love. We never even spanked him and we did not drink or use drugs and he does drink, but that isn't his biggest problem. His biggest problem is who he is; what he turned out to be. I actually think most of us on this board were not just loving parents, but DOTING parents who tried to give our children every single opportunity available. Maybe that is part of the entitlement factor now. No idea. I don't think these things can be analyzed. All we can do is protect ourselves and our other children from their hurting us. Often that means they can't live at home, getting restraining orders, changing locks, watching our backs when we go outside at night. </p><p></p><p>Not all bad drugs show up on drug tests. Drug tests are imperfect. So your son, who probably knows what doesn't show up, could very well be abusing dangerous drugs or mixtures of drugs that are dangerous together...and still not have them show up on a drug test. </p><p></p><p>When my daughter used drugs, she was in a psychiatric hospital that diagnosed her with bipolar. She has been c lean now for ten years. She clearly did NOT have bipolar. The drugs cause the bipolar symptoms. Not saying your son doesn't have bipolar, but it's something to think about. He may. He may not.</p><p></p><p>I can't say I blame you for letting him stay with the kids he's with, even though they are not stellar young people. If he lived at home, he'd still hang out with the worse element and he'd keep getting your husband into trouble too (maybe even lie?) and terrorize you and your precious daughter who did nothing to deserve this kind of disruption in her life. I would probably do what you did and if the cops came to me I'd demand some sort of services to make sure the child did not harm us. Juvie? I'd prefer drug rehab, but I'd do what I could to keep him out of the house. If he is not ready to quit taking drugs, rehab won't help him, but it would be a safe place for him to stay in the meantime.</p><p></p><p>I recommend you post in Parent Emeritus. It gets more traffic, the posters there are wiser than wise, and your son is almost eighteen anyway...you may as well join us. I have never met a better group of online support people as the women in Parent Emeritus. I think you'd get a lot of love and support there and you would certainly be believed and be bathed in warmth and understanding.</p><p></p><p>I hope to see you there <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 622483, member: 1550"] Bluebell, I believe everything you said about his upbringing. My son was not brought up to cuss at me, slap me, disrespect me, become addicted to porn, steal from us, and do some things that I'm ashamed to post, but trust me they are bad and he was raised only with love. We never even spanked him and we did not drink or use drugs and he does drink, but that isn't his biggest problem. His biggest problem is who he is; what he turned out to be. I actually think most of us on this board were not just loving parents, but DOTING parents who tried to give our children every single opportunity available. Maybe that is part of the entitlement factor now. No idea. I don't think these things can be analyzed. All we can do is protect ourselves and our other children from their hurting us. Often that means they can't live at home, getting restraining orders, changing locks, watching our backs when we go outside at night. Not all bad drugs show up on drug tests. Drug tests are imperfect. So your son, who probably knows what doesn't show up, could very well be abusing dangerous drugs or mixtures of drugs that are dangerous together...and still not have them show up on a drug test. When my daughter used drugs, she was in a psychiatric hospital that diagnosed her with bipolar. She has been c lean now for ten years. She clearly did NOT have bipolar. The drugs cause the bipolar symptoms. Not saying your son doesn't have bipolar, but it's something to think about. He may. He may not. I can't say I blame you for letting him stay with the kids he's with, even though they are not stellar young people. If he lived at home, he'd still hang out with the worse element and he'd keep getting your husband into trouble too (maybe even lie?) and terrorize you and your precious daughter who did nothing to deserve this kind of disruption in her life. I would probably do what you did and if the cops came to me I'd demand some sort of services to make sure the child did not harm us. Juvie? I'd prefer drug rehab, but I'd do what I could to keep him out of the house. If he is not ready to quit taking drugs, rehab won't help him, but it would be a safe place for him to stay in the meantime. I recommend you post in Parent Emeritus. It gets more traffic, the posters there are wiser than wise, and your son is almost eighteen anyway...you may as well join us. I have never met a better group of online support people as the women in Parent Emeritus. I think you'd get a lot of love and support there and you would certainly be believed and be bathed in warmth and understanding. I hope to see you there :) [/QUOTE]
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