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<blockquote data-quote="jenn4anthony" data-source="post: 121426" data-attributes="member: 4586"><p>hi everyone, and thanks for the warm welcome! Thought I would tell you all a little more about my son, my husband and I. </p><p> </p><p>When I became a mom, I really got involved with being a stay at home mom, who took various classes with my son...music together, mommy and me's, mother center, etc....very early on..i started to notice behaviors in Anthony that were not typical of what other children his age where displaying. He was very very clingy, if you will...he cried and cried..he was up every three hours for 6 months..my husband and i were exhausted. my delivery was not what my husband and I hoped it would have been. Anthony was in distress....i was not dialiating and the doctors decided that they would break my water...well once they did that was when the trouble began. right away they noticied that anthony had swallowed marconium and my pressure was dropping and there was no heart beat from anthony!!! Needless to say....we were a wreck! I had an emergency c-section...and I could not see anthony until the next day! All I wanted to do was hold and see my little guy. My husband was besides himself as was I. anthony was in the hospital for one week, and, so was i. we got home and vinn and i were thrilled and very happy to have our little man, safe, healthy and happily at home with us.</p><p> </p><p>As I mentioned earlier, very early on, we started to notice that Anthony was not like the other babies his age. We had him enrolled in various mommy and me activities and we had him around children his age quite often, but, i will tell you our social activities slowly but surely became disasterious. I was miserable and very concerned my husband was as well. Then before you knew it, I had postpardum depression.</p><p>I got help, got through it and am a stronger person today because of postpardum depression. I never felt like I wanted to hurt Anthony or myself, I was overwhelmed, I was not sleeping, and, felt very sped up.</p><p> </p><p>Getting back to Anthony....when Anthony was two years old, we had him tested....his eye contact was not the greatest, he flapped his arms, shook his head back and forth and was a "handful". He was tested, and, he did not qualify...we were told he feel within the grey area, to wait six months and see what happened...we waited and sure enough, Anthony qualified for services...speech, occupational therapy..he had low muscle tone, and, he also received SEIT services....special education intrient teacher...meaning, the teacher would attend his nursery and pre-K program on the days he attened which was 4 days and then 5 days and help him with his coping skills, or lack thereof....my husband and i worked very closely with the director and teachers in his nursery/pre-k. they attended school district meetings with us, they wrote letter about various behaviors anthony displayed, all this went on while i was just hysterical, but, calm...i knew that we had to help anthony out, get him into the best programs within county and make sure that he was monitored daily....and we worked with him on his speech, we took him out socially every single day...there are times looking back when i think we may have overstimulated him.....then bath time started to become a nightmare...screaming, crying, he didnt want soap on him, or shampoo, certain clothes would get on his nerves....he used to play constantly with the same toys over and over again, trains...line them up....and he got frequent ear infections, he has the tubes still....my husband and i tried out best to become informed with everything that was going on with anthony, we observed reported to the teachers at his nursery school/pre-k and worked together to help anthony succeed and reach his full potential...i must say that we were exhausted, stressed out, scared, and misunderstood. I will say that Anthony's behaviors have brought us together and made us stronger as a family and as a married couple. Anthony would scream for an hour, hide under tables or anything where he could fit under. My heart would break. Over the course of nursery and pre-k...there were many many ups and downs, through it all, vinn and i worked together and stayed strong and motivated to get anthony everything he needed to get to help him. now it was time to register him for kindergarten. we wanted anthony to be classified as a special education student in order for him to be placed in the kindergarten class with the extra aid that assists children with issues....we attened more than a dozen meetings, spoke our case, and had anthony classified and placed in the inclusion kindergarten program. then we find out that our home school....which is right around the corner, is not holding the inclusion program at the kindergarten level, the school up the street and one across town is housing the program, so we choose the school up the street...which is the better school out of the four in our district....at first we were nervous...what will people say that know we are not zoned for the school up the block that know we are zoned for the one around the corner from our house....i really let this get to me...silly, i know, who cares what people say...but, i didnt want anyone to label my son as a problem or as a kid that there kid should stay away from. my son is not aggressive. he is kind, loving, very very sensitive (sometimes to a fault just like me!) and he is a child that is high maintenance in nature. he makes friends easily, but, clings to one or two kids constantly. we are now working closely with his kindergarten teacher, and the two aides. we are coming up with ways in which anthony can feel good about himself, and, his work. he is very hard on himself. the school social worker sees him every wednesday, for a while, anthony was saying to me or vinn, or the both of us, at bedtime, and, sometimes if got upset during the day, that he did not like himself!!! My husband and I were and are confussed. We always tell him how special he is, how much we love him and are very blessed to have him as our son. We praise him when deserved and are always honest and very loving. We are now working with a child development center on getting anthony into a social skills group and to work with us as a family....anthony's kindergarten teacher and the social worker recommended this and honestly we are thrilled that anthony will be placed in a social skills group and that we are going to get some parent couseling.</p><p> </p><p>There is so much more to tell...think i have covered most of it....i will keep you guys posted as to when the social skills group starts and when we start the parent couseling.</p><p> </p><p>HUGS!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jenn4anthony, post: 121426, member: 4586"] hi everyone, and thanks for the warm welcome! Thought I would tell you all a little more about my son, my husband and I. When I became a mom, I really got involved with being a stay at home mom, who took various classes with my son...music together, mommy and me's, mother center, etc....very early on..i started to notice behaviors in Anthony that were not typical of what other children his age where displaying. He was very very clingy, if you will...he cried and cried..he was up every three hours for 6 months..my husband and i were exhausted. my delivery was not what my husband and I hoped it would have been. Anthony was in distress....i was not dialiating and the doctors decided that they would break my water...well once they did that was when the trouble began. right away they noticied that anthony had swallowed marconium and my pressure was dropping and there was no heart beat from anthony!!! Needless to say....we were a wreck! I had an emergency c-section...and I could not see anthony until the next day! All I wanted to do was hold and see my little guy. My husband was besides himself as was I. anthony was in the hospital for one week, and, so was i. we got home and vinn and i were thrilled and very happy to have our little man, safe, healthy and happily at home with us. As I mentioned earlier, very early on, we started to notice that Anthony was not like the other babies his age. We had him enrolled in various mommy and me activities and we had him around children his age quite often, but, i will tell you our social activities slowly but surely became disasterious. I was miserable and very concerned my husband was as well. Then before you knew it, I had postpardum depression. I got help, got through it and am a stronger person today because of postpardum depression. I never felt like I wanted to hurt Anthony or myself, I was overwhelmed, I was not sleeping, and, felt very sped up. Getting back to Anthony....when Anthony was two years old, we had him tested....his eye contact was not the greatest, he flapped his arms, shook his head back and forth and was a "handful". He was tested, and, he did not qualify...we were told he feel within the grey area, to wait six months and see what happened...we waited and sure enough, Anthony qualified for services...speech, occupational therapy..he had low muscle tone, and, he also received SEIT services....special education intrient teacher...meaning, the teacher would attend his nursery and pre-K program on the days he attened which was 4 days and then 5 days and help him with his coping skills, or lack thereof....my husband and i worked very closely with the director and teachers in his nursery/pre-k. they attended school district meetings with us, they wrote letter about various behaviors anthony displayed, all this went on while i was just hysterical, but, calm...i knew that we had to help anthony out, get him into the best programs within county and make sure that he was monitored daily....and we worked with him on his speech, we took him out socially every single day...there are times looking back when i think we may have overstimulated him.....then bath time started to become a nightmare...screaming, crying, he didnt want soap on him, or shampoo, certain clothes would get on his nerves....he used to play constantly with the same toys over and over again, trains...line them up....and he got frequent ear infections, he has the tubes still....my husband and i tried out best to become informed with everything that was going on with anthony, we observed reported to the teachers at his nursery school/pre-k and worked together to help anthony succeed and reach his full potential...i must say that we were exhausted, stressed out, scared, and misunderstood. I will say that Anthony's behaviors have brought us together and made us stronger as a family and as a married couple. Anthony would scream for an hour, hide under tables or anything where he could fit under. My heart would break. Over the course of nursery and pre-k...there were many many ups and downs, through it all, vinn and i worked together and stayed strong and motivated to get anthony everything he needed to get to help him. now it was time to register him for kindergarten. we wanted anthony to be classified as a special education student in order for him to be placed in the kindergarten class with the extra aid that assists children with issues....we attened more than a dozen meetings, spoke our case, and had anthony classified and placed in the inclusion kindergarten program. then we find out that our home school....which is right around the corner, is not holding the inclusion program at the kindergarten level, the school up the street and one across town is housing the program, so we choose the school up the street...which is the better school out of the four in our district....at first we were nervous...what will people say that know we are not zoned for the school up the block that know we are zoned for the one around the corner from our house....i really let this get to me...silly, i know, who cares what people say...but, i didnt want anyone to label my son as a problem or as a kid that there kid should stay away from. my son is not aggressive. he is kind, loving, very very sensitive (sometimes to a fault just like me!) and he is a child that is high maintenance in nature. he makes friends easily, but, clings to one or two kids constantly. we are now working closely with his kindergarten teacher, and the two aides. we are coming up with ways in which anthony can feel good about himself, and, his work. he is very hard on himself. the school social worker sees him every wednesday, for a while, anthony was saying to me or vinn, or the both of us, at bedtime, and, sometimes if got upset during the day, that he did not like himself!!! My husband and I were and are confussed. We always tell him how special he is, how much we love him and are very blessed to have him as our son. We praise him when deserved and are always honest and very loving. We are now working with a child development center on getting anthony into a social skills group and to work with us as a family....anthony's kindergarten teacher and the social worker recommended this and honestly we are thrilled that anthony will be placed in a social skills group and that we are going to get some parent couseling. There is so much more to tell...think i have covered most of it....i will keep you guys posted as to when the social skills group starts and when we start the parent couseling. HUGS! [/QUOTE]
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