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<blockquote data-quote="Truthsong" data-source="post: 400442"><p>It's easy to say that I don't understand him based on the little I've been able to share so far. But truly, I know this boy very well. The other side of the coin is that he really is a spectacular young man in some ways. And I do commend him in a lot of positive ways (the toothpaste was not linked to anything, he just needed more and I put it where he could find it.) There are good days and even on the days when things aren't all good, there are good points within them. </p><p></p><p>I know difficult child doesn't just want to be mean and disrespectful. It's just that he lives so much for the moment that he forgets what the consequences of his actions were before and doesn't connect the dots between two similar-but-not-exact sets of circumstances. So it takes a while for him to "get it". It's just a long, uphill process. </p><p></p><p>Margurite - I definitely will read that book and will ask husband to as well. You are right about the way Aspies emulate. Sometimes I forget about that, so I appreciate the reminder. I'll work on that some more and talk to husband about it again. </p><p></p><p>MidwestMom, I admit, you hit a nerve. You seem to be making some assumptions here that I feel are misinformed. I do know quite a bit about Asperger's. And it isn't that husband is unwilling to understand him. It's that despite difficult child's diagnoses, he still needs to learn how to become a productive and well-fitting member of society. Just because he has issues doesn't mean we can't teach him what it means to be a good person. I appreciate your concerns, truly. When I say they have no bond, that's not to say that husband doesn't care for difficult child, or want what's best for him. Please understand, that husband is not a monster. He loves difficult child in his own way. He just gets frustrated like the rest of us.</p><p></p><p> Thanks again for the welcomes and the help.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Truthsong, post: 400442"] It's easy to say that I don't understand him based on the little I've been able to share so far. But truly, I know this boy very well. The other side of the coin is that he really is a spectacular young man in some ways. And I do commend him in a lot of positive ways (the toothpaste was not linked to anything, he just needed more and I put it where he could find it.) There are good days and even on the days when things aren't all good, there are good points within them. I know difficult child doesn't just want to be mean and disrespectful. It's just that he lives so much for the moment that he forgets what the consequences of his actions were before and doesn't connect the dots between two similar-but-not-exact sets of circumstances. So it takes a while for him to "get it". It's just a long, uphill process. Margurite - I definitely will read that book and will ask husband to as well. You are right about the way Aspies emulate. Sometimes I forget about that, so I appreciate the reminder. I'll work on that some more and talk to husband about it again. MidwestMom, I admit, you hit a nerve. You seem to be making some assumptions here that I feel are misinformed. I do know quite a bit about Asperger's. And it isn't that husband is unwilling to understand him. It's that despite difficult child's diagnoses, he still needs to learn how to become a productive and well-fitting member of society. Just because he has issues doesn't mean we can't teach him what it means to be a good person. I appreciate your concerns, truly. When I say they have no bond, that's not to say that husband doesn't care for difficult child, or want what's best for him. Please understand, that husband is not a monster. He loves difficult child in his own way. He just gets frustrated like the rest of us. Thanks again for the welcomes and the help. [/QUOTE]
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