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<blockquote data-quote="Parent42girls" data-source="post: 505685" data-attributes="member: 13538"><p>It is hard to believe that it has been less than a month since I made my first post. We have had so many twists and turns in our situation with our daughter and I am once again seeking advice.</p><p></p><p>Over the last few weeks situation has taken a turn for the worse. Our daughter initially agreed to our stipulations for allowing her to stay, but has not held up to any of them. She agreed to call an abuse hot-line, but said that she didn't think it was a problem anymore so she wasn't going to do that. She agreed to see a therapist, but as soon as I found one she said that she didn't need it anymore and said that she would not go if I scheduled an appointment. She agreed to being more involved with her peers then made several excuses as to why she couldn't do things with them.</p><p></p><p>Things really started to turn after a company from another state expressed an interest in her and asked if she would consider coming out for an audition. She was so excited to tell us about it. In fact I didn't answer my cell phone at first so she called her Dad's, her sister's, then called the house phone. She was dying to share the news with us and we were very excited for her too. We did not say anything to her about the fact that she would have to leave her boyfriend to pursue this opportunity and we were very happy that she didn't mention it either. Not one word about him at all during the entire conversation. She even called her grandparents to tell them. It looked as if all of her hard work was paying off and she was going to "make it." This was, of course, all before she told her boyfriend about it.</p><p></p><p>Fast forward one week and she told us that she didn't want to go to the audition, and that she wanted to "take a break" from her path, get a regular job and move in with her boyfriend when she turns 18. She has no interest in going to college either unless she can attend college where he is. She says she just wants a "regular" life. She says this decision has nothing to do with her boyfriend and that he has encouraged her to go. I can hear the conversation in my head, "You should go, I'm happy for you. I just don't know how I'm going to live without you. You are the only thing in my life that makes me happy. I should have known this was going to happen but I couldn't stop myself from falling in love with you. But you should go and don't worry about me. I'll be okay." He is a master manipulator.</p><p></p><p>We told our daughter to take some time to think things over and she said she would. Since then she stopped going to her classes, and missed a mandatory rehearsal so she could go hang out with her boyfriend while he was at work instead. I was so angry and when I asked her what she was thinking she said that she has for sure decided that she doesn't want a career and that she practically hates it. She said she didn't want to go back to it at all. She was done.</p><p></p><p>That was on Friday. I knew it was time to bring her home at that point while we still could. The only reason we let her go there was to pursue her dream, and since she was no longer doing that, she had to come home. At least until she is 18. I flew out Saturday morning, packed her up and we flew back home Saturday evening. She was shocked that her Dad and I actually went through with it. She came unwillingly but peacefully.</p><p></p><p>We will start therapy as soon as possible, but other than that we are at a loss for how to handle things. I am so hopeful that we can "reach" her before she turns 18 - we have four months. Not a long time for sure. I never imagined we would find ourselves in this situation.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Parent42girls, post: 505685, member: 13538"] It is hard to believe that it has been less than a month since I made my first post. We have had so many twists and turns in our situation with our daughter and I am once again seeking advice. Over the last few weeks situation has taken a turn for the worse. Our daughter initially agreed to our stipulations for allowing her to stay, but has not held up to any of them. She agreed to call an abuse hot-line, but said that she didn't think it was a problem anymore so she wasn't going to do that. She agreed to see a therapist, but as soon as I found one she said that she didn't need it anymore and said that she would not go if I scheduled an appointment. She agreed to being more involved with her peers then made several excuses as to why she couldn't do things with them. Things really started to turn after a company from another state expressed an interest in her and asked if she would consider coming out for an audition. She was so excited to tell us about it. In fact I didn't answer my cell phone at first so she called her Dad's, her sister's, then called the house phone. She was dying to share the news with us and we were very excited for her too. We did not say anything to her about the fact that she would have to leave her boyfriend to pursue this opportunity and we were very happy that she didn't mention it either. Not one word about him at all during the entire conversation. She even called her grandparents to tell them. It looked as if all of her hard work was paying off and she was going to "make it." This was, of course, all before she told her boyfriend about it. Fast forward one week and she told us that she didn't want to go to the audition, and that she wanted to "take a break" from her path, get a regular job and move in with her boyfriend when she turns 18. She has no interest in going to college either unless she can attend college where he is. She says she just wants a "regular" life. She says this decision has nothing to do with her boyfriend and that he has encouraged her to go. I can hear the conversation in my head, "You should go, I'm happy for you. I just don't know how I'm going to live without you. You are the only thing in my life that makes me happy. I should have known this was going to happen but I couldn't stop myself from falling in love with you. But you should go and don't worry about me. I'll be okay." He is a master manipulator. We told our daughter to take some time to think things over and she said she would. Since then she stopped going to her classes, and missed a mandatory rehearsal so she could go hang out with her boyfriend while he was at work instead. I was so angry and when I asked her what she was thinking she said that she has for sure decided that she doesn't want a career and that she practically hates it. She said she didn't want to go back to it at all. She was done. That was on Friday. I knew it was time to bring her home at that point while we still could. The only reason we let her go there was to pursue her dream, and since she was no longer doing that, she had to come home. At least until she is 18. I flew out Saturday morning, packed her up and we flew back home Saturday evening. She was shocked that her Dad and I actually went through with it. She came unwillingly but peacefully. We will start therapy as soon as possible, but other than that we are at a loss for how to handle things. I am so hopeful that we can "reach" her before she turns 18 - we have four months. Not a long time for sure. I never imagined we would find ourselves in this situation. [/QUOTE]
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