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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 505778" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>I'm glad you got her home but very concerned about the situation. I do not think the boyfriend is going to be very happy about this and will assert any control he can long distance to get her back. He may even come to her. Those kind of manipulators and control freaks do not give up easily.</p><p></p><p>From what you have said I am assuming your daughter is a dancer. I have a little knowledge of this as a career choice because my easy child did competitive gymnastics for years and was required to do dance as part of her training. She was friends with several girls who were courted or recruited by dance companies. Believe it or not gymnastics coaches recruit young gymnasts into their programs too promising all sorts of things including special in-house classrooms so that no time was lost going to school. None of the gymnasts who took this offer ever went on to the olympics which is the ultimate thing they aspire to. Many went on to compete in college but soon their four years were over and thank goodness they had a college degree to fall back on. </p><p></p><p>I'm not criticising a dancers dream but for such a young girl to go off on her own and try to navigate the young adult world while at the same time being in such an intense environment is very difficult indeed and there are many unscrupulous people out there ready to take advantage of them.</p><p></p><p>I hope you are able to have a session with the therapist first to explain the issues involved here. Hopefully this therapist is experienced in helping adolescents involved in a controlling and abusive relationship because I think she is going to need someone very good at that. She also needs time to figure out exactly what she does want out of life, a career in this field or to further her education, but in either case she needs help and to take time to build up her self esteem so that she never again allows herself to get into an abusive relationship.</p><p></p><p>Watch her close mom. She may have been through a lot more than she is willing to talk about right now.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p><p></p><p>P.S. Good job reacting so quickly and getting her back home.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 505778, member: 59"] I'm glad you got her home but very concerned about the situation. I do not think the boyfriend is going to be very happy about this and will assert any control he can long distance to get her back. He may even come to her. Those kind of manipulators and control freaks do not give up easily. From what you have said I am assuming your daughter is a dancer. I have a little knowledge of this as a career choice because my easy child did competitive gymnastics for years and was required to do dance as part of her training. She was friends with several girls who were courted or recruited by dance companies. Believe it or not gymnastics coaches recruit young gymnasts into their programs too promising all sorts of things including special in-house classrooms so that no time was lost going to school. None of the gymnasts who took this offer ever went on to the olympics which is the ultimate thing they aspire to. Many went on to compete in college but soon their four years were over and thank goodness they had a college degree to fall back on. I'm not criticising a dancers dream but for such a young girl to go off on her own and try to navigate the young adult world while at the same time being in such an intense environment is very difficult indeed and there are many unscrupulous people out there ready to take advantage of them. I hope you are able to have a session with the therapist first to explain the issues involved here. Hopefully this therapist is experienced in helping adolescents involved in a controlling and abusive relationship because I think she is going to need someone very good at that. She also needs time to figure out exactly what she does want out of life, a career in this field or to further her education, but in either case she needs help and to take time to build up her self esteem so that she never again allows herself to get into an abusive relationship. Watch her close mom. She may have been through a lot more than she is willing to talk about right now. Nancy P.S. Good job reacting so quickly and getting her back home. [/QUOTE]
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