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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 491900" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Sounds like the drugs to me. Yes, I'm a broken record, but, sadly, when there is a sudden change in a difficult child in his teens, drugs are usually in the mix. Pot can make people unmotivated and lazy. It's famous for that. I'm not sure no longer taking stimulants is the reason anymore. Stims plus pot and maybe other stuff (alcohol or more drugs) will make the stimulants not work the way they are supposed to and maybe even add to his high.</p><p></p><p>Does your son understand the legal risk to having sex with a fourteen year old girl? There isn't anything you can do to stop him if her parents are ok with it, but if they break up or she decides to turn on him, it is considered statutory rape. Have you spoken to her parents? </p><p></p><p>Since he is graduating soon, I would draw up a list of things he has to do in order to be able continuing living in the house, which is YOUR house. Make him sign it. If he won't, you have the option of having him leave. You can write out a list of soup kitchens and homeless shelters where he can reside until he decides to get help. Often, we parents of grown kids (who haven't really grown up) have to make this very difficult and heartwrenching decision in order to make our difficult child's see that they need to change.</p><p></p><p>As for husband's bratty son, how does your husband deal with his rudeness? How old is he? Can he just tell you he's coming and he gets to stay? Does he ever help out when he is there? Ever talk to husband about it?</p><p></p><p>I am sorry that Christmas is hard for you this year. Glad you found us though. Someone is always around to *listen.*</p><p></p><p>Keep us posted. Others will come along too. The more info you give us, the better picture we get of the situation.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 491900, member: 1550"] Sounds like the drugs to me. Yes, I'm a broken record, but, sadly, when there is a sudden change in a difficult child in his teens, drugs are usually in the mix. Pot can make people unmotivated and lazy. It's famous for that. I'm not sure no longer taking stimulants is the reason anymore. Stims plus pot and maybe other stuff (alcohol or more drugs) will make the stimulants not work the way they are supposed to and maybe even add to his high. Does your son understand the legal risk to having sex with a fourteen year old girl? There isn't anything you can do to stop him if her parents are ok with it, but if they break up or she decides to turn on him, it is considered statutory rape. Have you spoken to her parents? Since he is graduating soon, I would draw up a list of things he has to do in order to be able continuing living in the house, which is YOUR house. Make him sign it. If he won't, you have the option of having him leave. You can write out a list of soup kitchens and homeless shelters where he can reside until he decides to get help. Often, we parents of grown kids (who haven't really grown up) have to make this very difficult and heartwrenching decision in order to make our difficult child's see that they need to change. As for husband's bratty son, how does your husband deal with his rudeness? How old is he? Can he just tell you he's coming and he gets to stay? Does he ever help out when he is there? Ever talk to husband about it? I am sorry that Christmas is hard for you this year. Glad you found us though. Someone is always around to *listen.* Keep us posted. Others will come along too. The more info you give us, the better picture we get of the situation. [/QUOTE]
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