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<blockquote data-quote="ostate2003" data-source="post: 491911" data-attributes="member: 13460"><p>Thank you for your reply and sharing some advise. I have thought about the list you referred to for my 18 year old, that way he can not con himself out of what is expected (which is famous for doing). I have talked to him about the risks of underage sex, but this is the first girl who has paid any attention to him and he is hit with puppy love like CRAZY (has her picture on his phone as a screen saver and just sits and stares at it over and over). </p><p></p><p>My husband doesn't think I should talk to her parents, thinking it could put us at risk moreso. My ex-husband doesn't want me to make waves - because I'm the only one that my son will half way listen to at this point. My understanding is that the girlfriend has an affluent life with her mom and step-dad and they've met my son and he's spent time with them on a number of occassions. My son (not having a job) decided to give this girl his class ring for her xmas present - even though I offered to help him buy her something for xmas (and suggested he could still do the class ring thing like kids do - but make it seperate than a present). My son seems so immature in his ability to process "common sense" things and think logically - and that has been the case for several years...even when he was in sports and was considered the "good brother". Because prior to going off the ADHD medications his younger brother was the angry and obnoxious one....so everyone at school and their local community center would say he was the good one and my younger son was the challenging one. </p><p></p><p>As for my husband's son, he is 21 and has always been this way. We've always tolorated it to an extent, as long as it doesn't get too out of hand, because my husband only see's him about 2-4 times a year, over the last 5+ years. My husband's ex HATES my husband as much today as she did when they divorced 12 years ago....and has told my husband on a number of occassions that she would turn his oldest son against him "come He** or high water". She and her husband have also made a living of scaming the system in everyway possible and have stole family money, the list goes on. His oldest son has "bought into" that type of lifestyle "get everything you can" but my husband's youngest son has not - and begged to move in with us for 3 years. We finally accomplished that in Sept of this year and now the oldest son has decided he better not cut himself out completely. </p><p></p><p>I will continue to check back throughout the day - just feel like I can talk about this and maybe help relieve some of the stress. Thanks for your kind words!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ostate2003, post: 491911, member: 13460"] Thank you for your reply and sharing some advise. I have thought about the list you referred to for my 18 year old, that way he can not con himself out of what is expected (which is famous for doing). I have talked to him about the risks of underage sex, but this is the first girl who has paid any attention to him and he is hit with puppy love like CRAZY (has her picture on his phone as a screen saver and just sits and stares at it over and over). My husband doesn't think I should talk to her parents, thinking it could put us at risk moreso. My ex-husband doesn't want me to make waves - because I'm the only one that my son will half way listen to at this point. My understanding is that the girlfriend has an affluent life with her mom and step-dad and they've met my son and he's spent time with them on a number of occassions. My son (not having a job) decided to give this girl his class ring for her xmas present - even though I offered to help him buy her something for xmas (and suggested he could still do the class ring thing like kids do - but make it seperate than a present). My son seems so immature in his ability to process "common sense" things and think logically - and that has been the case for several years...even when he was in sports and was considered the "good brother". Because prior to going off the ADHD medications his younger brother was the angry and obnoxious one....so everyone at school and their local community center would say he was the good one and my younger son was the challenging one. As for my husband's son, he is 21 and has always been this way. We've always tolorated it to an extent, as long as it doesn't get too out of hand, because my husband only see's him about 2-4 times a year, over the last 5+ years. My husband's ex HATES my husband as much today as she did when they divorced 12 years ago....and has told my husband on a number of occassions that she would turn his oldest son against him "come He** or high water". She and her husband have also made a living of scaming the system in everyway possible and have stole family money, the list goes on. His oldest son has "bought into" that type of lifestyle "get everything you can" but my husband's youngest son has not - and begged to move in with us for 3 years. We finally accomplished that in Sept of this year and now the oldest son has decided he better not cut himself out completely. I will continue to check back throughout the day - just feel like I can talk about this and maybe help relieve some of the stress. Thanks for your kind words! [/QUOTE]
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