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<blockquote data-quote="Tiredof33" data-source="post: 503468" data-attributes="member: 13558"><p>Sounds like you are describing my difficult child and my trys (and cries) for help! I was also told I was too soft and offered parenting classes. I tried everything including tough love. He called me names, stole from me, let his friends steal from me.</p><p></p><p>I made KMart press charges for a toy car her stole (they caught him and did not want to press charges since it was under $25) because he was getting into so much trouble. Went to court and I had to pay a $200 fine, no community service, nothing! I told him he had to pay me back, like I really thought he would!</p><p></p><p>He stole the candy and money he was suppossed to be selling for a band trip to LA for the Super Bowl. He had skipped school for 2 weeks and the band teacher and other teachers could not believe that I didn't know he was not in school. I was told I needed to get my out of control difficult child under control, only good students were in the band.</p><p></p><p>He lives with his girlfriend in another state and for about 2 to 3 years he was doing much better. until he met this one. They fight a lot and he threatens suicide and she wants to call me and scream and yell about him. He had told me they were not together any more. He said he was homeless and taking showers at friends homes and needed money. All of it was lies, the mother told me they fight a lot but always get back together. He stays with a friend a few houses down when they fight.</p><p></p><p>Lies, lies, and more lies. He is currently giving me the silent treatment because I had to call the police to stop his girlfriends harassment. difficult child left nasty messages for me and for his sister (she is married living in a separate home).</p><p></p><p>He apologized to his sister, but not me. He sent me a text about getting a wonderful job in NYC and that is a lie too! I just texted back that he needed to make sure he had the job before he moved. And both of them needed counseling. He didn't respond.</p><p></p><p>I am very tired of it and trying to live one day at a time. Read about detaching yourself from the problem. A counselor told me about detachment when there is absolutely nothing you can do to help them. I meditate a lot and pray, find a hobby. Exercise and take care of yourself.</p><p></p><p>It's sad when you are relieved that your difficult child is in jail beacause you know where they are at and they can't get drugs. HOPEFULLY!!</p><p></p><p>My difficult child is an adult now but I don't think he will ever grow up! It is still hard and I tell myself each morning that this is HIS life path and I try to turn it over to a Higherpower. It's out of my control. I find posting here helps to get it out (venting).</p><p>Try to have a good week.</p><p></p><p>I really beieve that they do think it is our fault because we are trying so hard to get them on a better path.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiredof33, post: 503468, member: 13558"] Sounds like you are describing my difficult child and my trys (and cries) for help! I was also told I was too soft and offered parenting classes. I tried everything including tough love. He called me names, stole from me, let his friends steal from me. I made KMart press charges for a toy car her stole (they caught him and did not want to press charges since it was under $25) because he was getting into so much trouble. Went to court and I had to pay a $200 fine, no community service, nothing! I told him he had to pay me back, like I really thought he would! He stole the candy and money he was suppossed to be selling for a band trip to LA for the Super Bowl. He had skipped school for 2 weeks and the band teacher and other teachers could not believe that I didn't know he was not in school. I was told I needed to get my out of control difficult child under control, only good students were in the band. He lives with his girlfriend in another state and for about 2 to 3 years he was doing much better. until he met this one. They fight a lot and he threatens suicide and she wants to call me and scream and yell about him. He had told me they were not together any more. He said he was homeless and taking showers at friends homes and needed money. All of it was lies, the mother told me they fight a lot but always get back together. He stays with a friend a few houses down when they fight. Lies, lies, and more lies. He is currently giving me the silent treatment because I had to call the police to stop his girlfriends harassment. difficult child left nasty messages for me and for his sister (she is married living in a separate home). He apologized to his sister, but not me. He sent me a text about getting a wonderful job in NYC and that is a lie too! I just texted back that he needed to make sure he had the job before he moved. And both of them needed counseling. He didn't respond. I am very tired of it and trying to live one day at a time. Read about detaching yourself from the problem. A counselor told me about detachment when there is absolutely nothing you can do to help them. I meditate a lot and pray, find a hobby. Exercise and take care of yourself. It's sad when you are relieved that your difficult child is in jail beacause you know where they are at and they can't get drugs. HOPEFULLY!! My difficult child is an adult now but I don't think he will ever grow up! It is still hard and I tell myself each morning that this is HIS life path and I try to turn it over to a Higherpower. It's out of my control. I find posting here helps to get it out (venting). Try to have a good week. I really beieve that they do think it is our fault because we are trying so hard to get them on a better path. [/QUOTE]
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