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<blockquote data-quote="SRL" data-source="post: 430876" data-attributes="member: 701"><p>Hi Confused. For most of us, finding the right help for our kids is a journey, starting first with considering that something is going on, then looking for help, and then trying some new strategies, then adjusting based on what works/doesn't work. Most of us do some starting and stopping along the way, and backing off for various reasons. And most of ussidetrack and blame our parenting before getting back on the path of finding answers and strategies that work. </p><p> </p><p>What I can tell you is that the length and intensity of the tantrums you're seeing are not normal for a child of his age. Very occasional one hour tantrums for a very upset five year old would be typical, but definitely not weekly rages. I also can tell you that the kinds of suggestions that you're getting to spank and take away toys usually make matters worse for behaviorally challenged young children, instead of helping.</p><p> </p><p>Personally I favor aggressively looking for answers until you find something that seems to help move them forward in managing behaviors. Until you get to that point, you're pretty much stuck with the problem behaviors. Usually that means seeing more than one specialist to evaluate different areas, and sometimes to find one who recognizes what's going on because that doesn't always happen with the first diagnositician you see.</p><p> </p><p>Good luck sorting this out--it's stressful thinking something may be up, and mentally evaluating where to go with it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SRL, post: 430876, member: 701"] Hi Confused. For most of us, finding the right help for our kids is a journey, starting first with considering that something is going on, then looking for help, and then trying some new strategies, then adjusting based on what works/doesn't work. Most of us do some starting and stopping along the way, and backing off for various reasons. And most of ussidetrack and blame our parenting before getting back on the path of finding answers and strategies that work. What I can tell you is that the length and intensity of the tantrums you're seeing are not normal for a child of his age. Very occasional one hour tantrums for a very upset five year old would be typical, but definitely not weekly rages. I also can tell you that the kinds of suggestions that you're getting to spank and take away toys usually make matters worse for behaviorally challenged young children, instead of helping. Personally I favor aggressively looking for answers until you find something that seems to help move them forward in managing behaviors. Until you get to that point, you're pretty much stuck with the problem behaviors. Usually that means seeing more than one specialist to evaluate different areas, and sometimes to find one who recognizes what's going on because that doesn't always happen with the first diagnositician you see. Good luck sorting this out--it's stressful thinking something may be up, and mentally evaluating where to go with it. [/QUOTE]
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