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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 88345" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I agree that it's not easy, and they may never bond with you. I've adopted four times. The kids I adopted two and under are as close to me as my biological son. But the kids I adopted six and over were disasters (see info on Scott below). Two other ones didn't work out as they were abusing my younger kids as well as kids in the neighborhood. Not all kids can be saved. Some are so far gone when you get them that they get frightened at the idea of being loved. This condition is called Reactive Attachment Disorder, and it's scary. I would definitely read the Keck books first, and talk to people who've dealt with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). Chances are good that kids the age of yours who have been abused have serious attachment issues. Most kids in foster care have been sexually abused too. The stats are something like 90%. I know this isn't encouraging, but it's realistic. This will be a very hard, unconventional ride.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 88345, member: 1550"] I agree that it's not easy, and they may never bond with you. I've adopted four times. The kids I adopted two and under are as close to me as my biological son. But the kids I adopted six and over were disasters (see info on Scott below). Two other ones didn't work out as they were abusing my younger kids as well as kids in the neighborhood. Not all kids can be saved. Some are so far gone when you get them that they get frightened at the idea of being loved. This condition is called Reactive Attachment Disorder, and it's scary. I would definitely read the Keck books first, and talk to people who've dealt with Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD). Chances are good that kids the age of yours who have been abused have serious attachment issues. Most kids in foster care have been sexually abused too. The stats are something like 90%. I know this isn't encouraging, but it's realistic. This will be a very hard, unconventional ride. [/QUOTE]
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