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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 530559" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>Hi notsureeither, </p><p>I'm glad you found us. Many of us can totally relate with feeling...with knowing that we gave them the best we could and put in a ton of effort so as to avoid this course our children/difficult child's have ended up on. I for one took it SO personally when my difficult child boys began using drugs. I could not believe they would do this to all that their dad and I had given/provided for them. They destroyed the "ideal family picture" I had in my head. It took rehab, counseling, Al Anon meetings etc to get over my wrong thinking and to realize they were addicts with a disease, a bend toward using...and their bad behavior would result in consequences that would then give them (in their minds) even more reason to want to use etc...it snowballed. Of course an addict will use for Any reason. They have to have an honest inner desire to seek help and stop using one day at a time. Sadly enough...All of our "wanting" for them won't do it.</p><p></p><p>It's been awhile since I had a 16 yr old but boy can I relate to the unruliness/rudeness. Mine became very disrespectful during that time period. </p><p>I think it's wonderful though that your son has a job and goals. Neither of my sons wanted to work hard during their teen yrs...Only since adulthood have they (one son) really put in strenuous effort to succeed or get reward. </p><p></p><p>Welcome to the board. </p><p>LMS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 530559, member: 3305"] Hi notsureeither, I'm glad you found us. Many of us can totally relate with feeling...with knowing that we gave them the best we could and put in a ton of effort so as to avoid this course our children/difficult child's have ended up on. I for one took it SO personally when my difficult child boys began using drugs. I could not believe they would do this to all that their dad and I had given/provided for them. They destroyed the "ideal family picture" I had in my head. It took rehab, counseling, Al Anon meetings etc to get over my wrong thinking and to realize they were addicts with a disease, a bend toward using...and their bad behavior would result in consequences that would then give them (in their minds) even more reason to want to use etc...it snowballed. Of course an addict will use for Any reason. They have to have an honest inner desire to seek help and stop using one day at a time. Sadly enough...All of our "wanting" for them won't do it. It's been awhile since I had a 16 yr old but boy can I relate to the unruliness/rudeness. Mine became very disrespectful during that time period. I think it's wonderful though that your son has a job and goals. Neither of my sons wanted to work hard during their teen yrs...Only since adulthood have they (one son) really put in strenuous effort to succeed or get reward. Welcome to the board. LMS [/QUOTE]
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