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<blockquote data-quote="exhausted" data-source="post: 530608" data-attributes="member: 11001"><p>Hello and welcome. This is a familiar story to many of us. The answers are all personal and the situations a bit different but I hope you find support here. I agree that going to get support for yourselves is important. I attend FA meetings. My difficult child is a pot user as well-not every day but often enough. She also suffers from mental issues, but is slick as well in counseling which she now refuses. We have tried residential programs and counseling, sports, music, medications and still things are not stable. I do know there are some teen groups with a 12 step focus out there. I don't think they work unless the user is in recovery and wants to be clean however. Have you set boundaries like no use in our home, no car until you test clean for X amount of time, no license if your grades are not good enough to get insurance discount? (These did not work for us-but may for some)</p><p>The job is good but how long will it last if he moves on to other drugs? Not all kids do, but if addiction is in the family chances are pretty good he will. Is he doing bad at school because of work and not getting things done? How does he get to work? If you drive him could you use that as a consequence-i.e.-no ride if you're high or something like that?</p><p></p><p>Kids grow up and despite our best job at raising and loving them, they make decisions on their impared adolescent brains which we have no control over-none. We are not to blame most of the time. Some of these decisions cause emotional trauma and some cause school and home problems. Some kids can turn themselves round right and some lack the resilience to get on their feet in a healthy way-thus the self medication with pot. Maybe school is hard for him and he just feels like a failure??? Is he getting any help? Pot causes apathy by the way-which came firt?</p><p>The drinking is really scary-it is addicting in every way. Some kids have benefitted from Residential Treatment Center (RTC) programs. (ours is worse but that has to do with her mental health issues).</p><p></p><p>Take care of you so you can care for your family. Keep us posted.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="exhausted, post: 530608, member: 11001"] Hello and welcome. This is a familiar story to many of us. The answers are all personal and the situations a bit different but I hope you find support here. I agree that going to get support for yourselves is important. I attend FA meetings. My difficult child is a pot user as well-not every day but often enough. She also suffers from mental issues, but is slick as well in counseling which she now refuses. We have tried residential programs and counseling, sports, music, medications and still things are not stable. I do know there are some teen groups with a 12 step focus out there. I don't think they work unless the user is in recovery and wants to be clean however. Have you set boundaries like no use in our home, no car until you test clean for X amount of time, no license if your grades are not good enough to get insurance discount? (These did not work for us-but may for some) The job is good but how long will it last if he moves on to other drugs? Not all kids do, but if addiction is in the family chances are pretty good he will. Is he doing bad at school because of work and not getting things done? How does he get to work? If you drive him could you use that as a consequence-i.e.-no ride if you're high or something like that? Kids grow up and despite our best job at raising and loving them, they make decisions on their impared adolescent brains which we have no control over-none. We are not to blame most of the time. Some of these decisions cause emotional trauma and some cause school and home problems. Some kids can turn themselves round right and some lack the resilience to get on their feet in a healthy way-thus the self medication with pot. Maybe school is hard for him and he just feels like a failure??? Is he getting any help? Pot causes apathy by the way-which came firt? The drinking is really scary-it is addicting in every way. Some kids have benefitted from Residential Treatment Center (RTC) programs. (ours is worse but that has to do with her mental health issues). Take care of you so you can care for your family. Keep us posted. [/QUOTE]
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