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<blockquote data-quote="Zardo" data-source="post: 504018" data-attributes="member: 12490"><p>My son is 16 and we tried a 3 month Wilderness program and later on an intensive outpatient program. Both were usefull. the wilderness program "stopped the madness" and took his rage away. Although not "fixed" his use dramatically cut down and he began to see that HE was causing his own problems. He came home no longer angry. Later, after a relapse, we found the IOP and he himself reports it as the most meaningful experience he has had. He is much more in control of his own life now and working at recovery. Only done for 2 months, we'll see from here. My main point is that I think an outpatient program near your home can be very useful, as long as their behavior at home is within the range of acceptable. It lets them work through things in their home environment so that they learn how to be better in their real life. I am not suprised that he went in skeptical and came out willing. The people in these programs can reach our kids in a non-judging way. I hope that this is the beginning of your son exploring his own issues and learning how to live well. Don't expect a complete fix the first time. We have had multiple interventions in this 2 year period, but we keep working with my son as long as he is willing and trying. I do think that unwilling kids can still get help though through Wilderness Rehab...again, not a miracle fix, but I have SEEN it reach the unreachable and begin a process toward recovery, even if it's not perfect. I do agree with others though that IF he does not respond and you continue to feel like a victim in your own home, it is time for him to leave, either on his own at your request or by you getting support through the courts. Many on this board have found that their kids did not respond until they struggled on their own. Good luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Zardo, post: 504018, member: 12490"] My son is 16 and we tried a 3 month Wilderness program and later on an intensive outpatient program. Both were usefull. the wilderness program "stopped the madness" and took his rage away. Although not "fixed" his use dramatically cut down and he began to see that HE was causing his own problems. He came home no longer angry. Later, after a relapse, we found the IOP and he himself reports it as the most meaningful experience he has had. He is much more in control of his own life now and working at recovery. Only done for 2 months, we'll see from here. My main point is that I think an outpatient program near your home can be very useful, as long as their behavior at home is within the range of acceptable. It lets them work through things in their home environment so that they learn how to be better in their real life. I am not suprised that he went in skeptical and came out willing. The people in these programs can reach our kids in a non-judging way. I hope that this is the beginning of your son exploring his own issues and learning how to live well. Don't expect a complete fix the first time. We have had multiple interventions in this 2 year period, but we keep working with my son as long as he is willing and trying. I do think that unwilling kids can still get help though through Wilderness Rehab...again, not a miracle fix, but I have SEEN it reach the unreachable and begin a process toward recovery, even if it's not perfect. I do agree with others though that IF he does not respond and you continue to feel like a victim in your own home, it is time for him to leave, either on his own at your request or by you getting support through the courts. Many on this board have found that their kids did not respond until they struggled on their own. Good luck. [/QUOTE]
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