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New to page - adult stepchild issues. HELP PLEASE
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 482257" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi. Guess I'm reading this late, but wanted to agree with what the others have said...there is nothing you can do.</p><p></p><p>As an adoptive mom, I also know that kids who are adopted older, with mental health issues in their background as well as poor prenatal care (sometimes including drinking and drug use during pregnancy) these kids probably would have been this way even if your hub and his ex had been strict. There are likely some attachment issues and then your hub divorced and THIS family broke apart...and they are probably even more vulnerable than kids who did not suffer losses. Not that there are no biological parents here. Far from it. We have all kinds.</p><p></p><p>When an adult child is abusing alcohol and drugs (and the stealing part screams at me that it is also drugs), there is absolutely nothing you can do except detach and offer to help if the child wants treatment. That was what we had to do with our daughter. We also attended Al-Anon and Narc-Anon meetings...they are both pretty much the same. The real time advice in my opinion is very soothing.</p><p></p><p>I know it's frustrating and wish I had more hopeful advice, but it's pretty much up to the adult child if she wants to change. We run out of legal options when they turn eighteen unfortunately.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 482257, member: 1550"] Hi. Guess I'm reading this late, but wanted to agree with what the others have said...there is nothing you can do. As an adoptive mom, I also know that kids who are adopted older, with mental health issues in their background as well as poor prenatal care (sometimes including drinking and drug use during pregnancy) these kids probably would have been this way even if your hub and his ex had been strict. There are likely some attachment issues and then your hub divorced and THIS family broke apart...and they are probably even more vulnerable than kids who did not suffer losses. Not that there are no biological parents here. Far from it. We have all kinds. When an adult child is abusing alcohol and drugs (and the stealing part screams at me that it is also drugs), there is absolutely nothing you can do except detach and offer to help if the child wants treatment. That was what we had to do with our daughter. We also attended Al-Anon and Narc-Anon meetings...they are both pretty much the same. The real time advice in my opinion is very soothing. I know it's frustrating and wish I had more hopeful advice, but it's pretty much up to the adult child if she wants to change. We run out of legal options when they turn eighteen unfortunately. [/QUOTE]
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