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<blockquote data-quote="lettinggo4now" data-source="post: 530246" data-attributes="member: 14602"><p>Well, she came over yesterday very upset just crying all I could do was hug her ...when I asked what's wrong (I know whats wrong in my world, but she seemed so upset)..she just said..."I need to get my life back" ...and we talked for a long time. She says she isn't doing drugs...call me foolish..I believe her. Something in my heart feels she is telling me the truth. She was looking for the car keys she admits wanting to go look for a job, instead she found the money, because she owed ppl for food, cigarettes, room and board etc..she took it. Partly bitter because to her she paid for the car due to what we got in tax return due to her college credit..but the car is in our name etc..Because I caught her driving high several months ago and she didn't have a job to pay for the insurance etc. we refused to let her have it. Then the laptop she took was a Christmas gift 3 yr ago, it quit she never got it fixed. So while she was gone we did. In her eyes, it was her gift even though we got it fixed and her dad had already gave it to her before and she was not told she would have to pay for the repairs...so..listening I am hearing her differently..sort of. She thought she wanted to move home, but she kept telling me she felt worthless. I thought she was saying we were treating her that way. Yesterday I realized it is her guilt her shame because she said when she is here she remembers all she has done wrong, it is her heart. She wants to get her life back, so we worked out a deal for her to use the car to find a job to support herself, she also really wants to pay the money back she took. I pray she is really ready ...I do sense a difference in her that was not there before. She has 3 months to be able to pay her insurance etc...and prove herself to us. Oh we are keeping the sticks in the windows, and I keep my bedroom locked...but I left her a key to get the things she needed to go job hunting today..she had to write mileage, who she spoke to etc...but we got to start some where..I know it started with Spice a year ago, but oddly all the people I talk to her friends tell me she doesn't do drugs she is really against it..I wanted to reason...why then was she doing these things...but some how I think all the unsaid and assumptions of what she believed and what I believed about each other was the issue. I had to decide some things..so slowly cautiously..we are giving her that chance.. we will see.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lettinggo4now, post: 530246, member: 14602"] Well, she came over yesterday very upset just crying all I could do was hug her ...when I asked what's wrong (I know whats wrong in my world, but she seemed so upset)..she just said..."I need to get my life back" ...and we talked for a long time. She says she isn't doing drugs...call me foolish..I believe her. Something in my heart feels she is telling me the truth. She was looking for the car keys she admits wanting to go look for a job, instead she found the money, because she owed ppl for food, cigarettes, room and board etc..she took it. Partly bitter because to her she paid for the car due to what we got in tax return due to her college credit..but the car is in our name etc..Because I caught her driving high several months ago and she didn't have a job to pay for the insurance etc. we refused to let her have it. Then the laptop she took was a Christmas gift 3 yr ago, it quit she never got it fixed. So while she was gone we did. In her eyes, it was her gift even though we got it fixed and her dad had already gave it to her before and she was not told she would have to pay for the repairs...so..listening I am hearing her differently..sort of. She thought she wanted to move home, but she kept telling me she felt worthless. I thought she was saying we were treating her that way. Yesterday I realized it is her guilt her shame because she said when she is here she remembers all she has done wrong, it is her heart. She wants to get her life back, so we worked out a deal for her to use the car to find a job to support herself, she also really wants to pay the money back she took. I pray she is really ready ...I do sense a difference in her that was not there before. She has 3 months to be able to pay her insurance etc...and prove herself to us. Oh we are keeping the sticks in the windows, and I keep my bedroom locked...but I left her a key to get the things she needed to go job hunting today..she had to write mileage, who she spoke to etc...but we got to start some where..I know it started with Spice a year ago, but oddly all the people I talk to her friends tell me she doesn't do drugs she is really against it..I wanted to reason...why then was she doing these things...but some how I think all the unsaid and assumptions of what she believed and what I believed about each other was the issue. I had to decide some things..so slowly cautiously..we are giving her that chance.. we will see. [/QUOTE]
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