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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 699030" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Granny, like me you are older. Don't think you don't matter. It is different to be 50 and going through this and 65. I'm 63.</p><p></p><p>You deserve to retire from parenthood in my opinion and to just have fun with your husband and functional family and friends. We can't live forever and these defiant young men and women will need to make it without us. They either learn how or they will eventually be 30 and 50 and in the streets. Age of us DOES matter. I suddenly value MY life and what I want to do with the next twenty years, if I stay healthy.</p><p></p><p>You are a Christian. "Honor thy mother and Father" is a commandment. But our d cs expect us to honor THEM, even if we are old and sick. This is the exact opposite of how healthy young adults behave. Healthy young adults start to worry about us even though we don't want them to. Although 19 can be childish, it isn't always. My husband was serving our country in the Air Force at 18. My 20 year old daughter is working almost full time and going to college in her third year for law enforcement...and she had such bad learning disabilities that she couldn't read at age eight. 19 is only young if they refuse to grow up. They are old enough to at least be a full time host or server at Applebees. They are old enough to have empathy for us and not just worry about their own often selfish desires and to beg for our retirement money for their own stuff, drugs included. Gas. Things they could pay for if they worked even as a restaurant host. I do that. Trust me, it's not a stressful job and does not require brain power. They don't even drug test. </p><p></p><p>in my opinion You deserve golden years. You have already done much. Unless a person is schizophrenic and afraid of being poisened, mental illness can be medically and therapeutically overcome. I know. I have been managing a serious mood disorder and severe anxiety all my life. This includes my early childhood. At certain times I was afraid to leave the house. Both depression and especially anxiety are treatable. If somebody refuses treatment that is their fault. Should we encourage not getting help and using pot instead? Pot can cause paranoia...it did me when I was young and tried it about eight times. Just made me paranoid and spacy and hungry. Did not make me functional. In fact, it made me not want to do anything but eat...lol.</p><p></p><p>You have to do what you feel is right. This is just my way of looking at life. I am sharing it. You are not me and this is my two cents. Take anything you like and leave the rest.</p><p></p><p>You get hugs from me for having such a loving, caring heart. You are such a good person. You will have no time for a life if you keep putting your grandson and his selfish desires before your health. And he won't know what to do once you can't care for him anymore. He has no coping skills. He needs to learn how to man up even if he is immature. I'm so sorry.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 699030, member: 1550"] Granny, like me you are older. Don't think you don't matter. It is different to be 50 and going through this and 65. I'm 63. You deserve to retire from parenthood in my opinion and to just have fun with your husband and functional family and friends. We can't live forever and these defiant young men and women will need to make it without us. They either learn how or they will eventually be 30 and 50 and in the streets. Age of us DOES matter. I suddenly value MY life and what I want to do with the next twenty years, if I stay healthy. You are a Christian. "Honor thy mother and Father" is a commandment. But our d cs expect us to honor THEM, even if we are old and sick. This is the exact opposite of how healthy young adults behave. Healthy young adults start to worry about us even though we don't want them to. Although 19 can be childish, it isn't always. My husband was serving our country in the Air Force at 18. My 20 year old daughter is working almost full time and going to college in her third year for law enforcement...and she had such bad learning disabilities that she couldn't read at age eight. 19 is only young if they refuse to grow up. They are old enough to at least be a full time host or server at Applebees. They are old enough to have empathy for us and not just worry about their own often selfish desires and to beg for our retirement money for their own stuff, drugs included. Gas. Things they could pay for if they worked even as a restaurant host. I do that. Trust me, it's not a stressful job and does not require brain power. They don't even drug test. in my opinion You deserve golden years. You have already done much. Unless a person is schizophrenic and afraid of being poisened, mental illness can be medically and therapeutically overcome. I know. I have been managing a serious mood disorder and severe anxiety all my life. This includes my early childhood. At certain times I was afraid to leave the house. Both depression and especially anxiety are treatable. If somebody refuses treatment that is their fault. Should we encourage not getting help and using pot instead? Pot can cause paranoia...it did me when I was young and tried it about eight times. Just made me paranoid and spacy and hungry. Did not make me functional. In fact, it made me not want to do anything but eat...lol. You have to do what you feel is right. This is just my way of looking at life. I am sharing it. You are not me and this is my two cents. Take anything you like and leave the rest. You get hugs from me for having such a loving, caring heart. You are such a good person. You will have no time for a life if you keep putting your grandson and his selfish desires before your health. And he won't know what to do once you can't care for him anymore. He has no coping skills. He needs to learn how to man up even if he is immature. I'm so sorry. [/QUOTE]
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