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<blockquote data-quote="Wakegirl" data-source="post: 578314" data-attributes="member: 15912"><p>Thank you all so much!! I'm literally sitting here in tears reading what some of y'all have been through, and knowing that I have a long road ahead of me emotionally. That's my problem. I let my emotions get involved. This is my child. My only child. My flesh. It literally kills me every time I hear that this drug is going to end up killing him or landing him in prison for a very long time. Which is what I was told again today. How can it be? How did my sweet baby boy ever get off on the wrong track? Is it my fault? Is it because his father and I are divorced and his father hasn't had much impact on his life? How did this happen? Why does it have to be happening? He comes from your typical all American family, who eat dinner at the table together, go on summer vacations. No drug abuse or violence from any other family member. Why my son? These are the things I'm constantly asking myself. And now he's going to be a father, and can't even begin to take care of himself. Sigh. Sniff. Sigh....</p><p></p><p>I am going to court tomorrow. After meeting with his counselor, I did some research on the rehabs he recommended. The one I would like him to go to won't have an opening until the middle of next week. His prosecutor has been really good about working with me. So I'm going to ask him if we can postpone his court date until next Wednesday. I'll give him the letter from my sons counselor stating that he recommends residential treatment for difficult child, and explain that he won't be able to be admitted until next week. That way, we can appear in court next Wednesday, get the court ordered treatment from the judge, and then head straight to the rehab center. It will also prevent me from having to deal with his antics while anticipating leaving for treatment for a week. Am I making sense? My mind is like a blur right now. It's hard to think straight. </p><p></p><p>I went last week and got on an antidepressant. I was sick of waking up with an empty feeling in my stomach, and crying out of the blue. I'm definitely going to check on some al anon meetings. </p><p></p><p>So, while typing this, he walks in. He's lost the keys to his truck over the weekend and has done nothing about trying to find them. So I asked him how he was going to get to court tomorrow. I told him I would be going, and he</p><p> could ride with me. He immediately went ballistic. Screaming at me, saying he was an adult and he didn't need me there to add fuel to the fire. I calmly stated that his current counseling isn't helping, and the court needed to be made aware. He continued to yell and say that he has a baby on the way and he didn't need me telling him or anybody else what's good for him. He knows what he has to do. And that if I thought I was going to get him to go into some rehab, it would be a cold day in hell. He's screaming and cussing profusely the whole time. I'm a dumba$$. I've ruined his life. Etc. I said that's fine. He has a choice. Leave my house tonight, or I will be in court tomorrow. He scares me so bad when he acts this way. He almost looks like a demon in this angry state. I'm signing off for now to go and say a lot if prayers. It's all I have right now. Thank you for listening.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Wakegirl, post: 578314, member: 15912"] Thank you all so much!! I'm literally sitting here in tears reading what some of y'all have been through, and knowing that I have a long road ahead of me emotionally. That's my problem. I let my emotions get involved. This is my child. My only child. My flesh. It literally kills me every time I hear that this drug is going to end up killing him or landing him in prison for a very long time. Which is what I was told again today. How can it be? How did my sweet baby boy ever get off on the wrong track? Is it my fault? Is it because his father and I are divorced and his father hasn't had much impact on his life? How did this happen? Why does it have to be happening? He comes from your typical all American family, who eat dinner at the table together, go on summer vacations. No drug abuse or violence from any other family member. Why my son? These are the things I'm constantly asking myself. And now he's going to be a father, and can't even begin to take care of himself. Sigh. Sniff. Sigh.... I am going to court tomorrow. After meeting with his counselor, I did some research on the rehabs he recommended. The one I would like him to go to won't have an opening until the middle of next week. His prosecutor has been really good about working with me. So I'm going to ask him if we can postpone his court date until next Wednesday. I'll give him the letter from my sons counselor stating that he recommends residential treatment for difficult child, and explain that he won't be able to be admitted until next week. That way, we can appear in court next Wednesday, get the court ordered treatment from the judge, and then head straight to the rehab center. It will also prevent me from having to deal with his antics while anticipating leaving for treatment for a week. Am I making sense? My mind is like a blur right now. It's hard to think straight. I went last week and got on an antidepressant. I was sick of waking up with an empty feeling in my stomach, and crying out of the blue. I'm definitely going to check on some al anon meetings. So, while typing this, he walks in. He's lost the keys to his truck over the weekend and has done nothing about trying to find them. So I asked him how he was going to get to court tomorrow. I told him I would be going, and he could ride with me. He immediately went ballistic. Screaming at me, saying he was an adult and he didn't need me there to add fuel to the fire. I calmly stated that his current counseling isn't helping, and the court needed to be made aware. He continued to yell and say that he has a baby on the way and he didn't need me telling him or anybody else what's good for him. He knows what he has to do. And that if I thought I was going to get him to go into some rehab, it would be a cold day in hell. He's screaming and cussing profusely the whole time. I'm a dumba$$. I've ruined his life. Etc. I said that's fine. He has a choice. Leave my house tonight, or I will be in court tomorrow. He scares me so bad when he acts this way. He almost looks like a demon in this angry state. I'm signing off for now to go and say a lot if prayers. It's all I have right now. Thank you for listening. [/QUOTE]
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