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Newbie...desperate mom with 20 yo addict...court tomorrow
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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 578489" data-attributes="member: 15801"><p>I really hope he gets court ordered rehab..... how do you let them on the streets... you probably will have some sleepless nights if he ends up there. It is the hardest thing I have ever done (and that was after I thought kicking my son out of the house, and then seeing him in jail were the hardest things!). So how do you do it? You do it by realizing you have done everything you can and that now it truly is up to him. My guess is that a couple of days on the street and he will be willing to go to rehab!!! We let my son be homeless several times... the first few times it was only for a week or two at the most. That much time on the street, in warmer weather too, was enough to send him running to rehab. The thing is they do learn to survive and to work the systems.... there are quite a number of homeless youth out there and programs for them in various cities. They do eventually figure it out.... this time my son stayed on the street for 5 months. Believe me I wanted to just run out and rescue him except I had no idea what I would do with him then!!! With my 17 year old daugther at home, who is a easy child and doing well, I was not going to bring him hear to create tons of chaos and heartbreak in her senior year in HS. That would not be fair to her!!</p><p></p><p>And eventually I think it got bad enough, sad enough, desperate enough he reached out again for help.... and then we offered our hands for help..... but did not do it for him this time. He had to make the calls... and he had to contact my friend who is an interventionist. I needed to step back further than I had in the past. This needs to be his journey, not mine.</p><p></p><p>The same is true of your son. He is a young adult, and no matter how immature he is, he needs to find his path and live is journey, you cannot do it for him.</p><p></p><p>Anxiously awaiting to hear how court went.</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 578489, member: 15801"] I really hope he gets court ordered rehab..... how do you let them on the streets... you probably will have some sleepless nights if he ends up there. It is the hardest thing I have ever done (and that was after I thought kicking my son out of the house, and then seeing him in jail were the hardest things!). So how do you do it? You do it by realizing you have done everything you can and that now it truly is up to him. My guess is that a couple of days on the street and he will be willing to go to rehab!!! We let my son be homeless several times... the first few times it was only for a week or two at the most. That much time on the street, in warmer weather too, was enough to send him running to rehab. The thing is they do learn to survive and to work the systems.... there are quite a number of homeless youth out there and programs for them in various cities. They do eventually figure it out.... this time my son stayed on the street for 5 months. Believe me I wanted to just run out and rescue him except I had no idea what I would do with him then!!! With my 17 year old daugther at home, who is a easy child and doing well, I was not going to bring him hear to create tons of chaos and heartbreak in her senior year in HS. That would not be fair to her!! And eventually I think it got bad enough, sad enough, desperate enough he reached out again for help.... and then we offered our hands for help..... but did not do it for him this time. He had to make the calls... and he had to contact my friend who is an interventionist. I needed to step back further than I had in the past. This needs to be his journey, not mine. The same is true of your son. He is a young adult, and no matter how immature he is, he needs to find his path and live is journey, you cannot do it for him. Anxiously awaiting to hear how court went. TL [/QUOTE]
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