Hi, I just found this site tonite. I have a 5 yr old daughter, who was tested for Celiac at 19m and as a result of the endoscopy/biopsy, was PTSD and non-verbal for 2 years. She's been through 2 1/2 yrs of special Pre-K with 12:1:1 and a 1:1 aide, speech therapy and just started Kindergarten this Sept. She is basically on track academically, scored high on all her testing (fine motor was 6.5!). However, I had to leave my marriage of 18 yrs in Aug. due to domestic violence ( lost job 6 yrs ago, spiraled since, became verbally abusive/very neglecting over last year.) It was verbal/emotional to the children, but not physical, but I took the kids and left with what we could stuff in the car, as he refused to leave the house. Anyway, we've been settled in our new apt. since Sept. The first couple months of school have gone pretty well, kids are all doing amazing and so much more calm and doing better. I have sole custody, and x doesn't even call anymore. Long story, sorry but not sure what all is involved in her behavior. The last 2 months, my 5 yr old has been really throwing nasty tantrums whenever anyone says anything she doesn't like, or is told no. Screaming, kicking, throwing things etc. I am VERY consistent with the "naughty spot" and she will wail for 20 min about "I HAAATE TIME OUUUT" before I can even set the timer! She also had a little boy pick on her and for the last two weeks has been yelling REALLY mean things at him like "I hate you!" and when he goes home "Finally! I 'm glad u are leaving!". She has picked up a number of "new" words and phrases from starting school, which I know is normal (I also have a 10,9 & 7 yr olds) but sheesh, it's really bothering me how mean she is getting!! At home it is the worst. To her brother and sisters (meanie, stupid, poopyhead) and to me (youre mean, I no like you!) and the screaming .....ugh! Not just telling you but screaming at the top of her lungs! With my son having autism, I am very structured, we have house rules, chores, predictable reliable consequences, no spanking......but she is the first of my 4 kids to ever act this way, so I am really kind of at a loss as to what more I can do to help her stop this behavior. I read with all the kids individually as part of our bedtime, and am working on "how do you think that made fox feel?" type questions to encourage her to feel empathy, and try to stay calm and stern when dealing with her when she's screaming & throwing a fit, but I'm really feeling frustrated. None of the others were this stubborn, and never were screamers or threw bad tantrums like this. Any advice? All her teachers and care provider don't see this side of her much, other than the saying mean things the last few weeks to this little boy. Her academics are just fine. She had ear tubes a year ago, and ENT and hearing testing etc, so I know she can hear fine now, and I know she is making up for the terrible two type developmental stage from not going thru it when she was non verbal, but ugh.....help.