Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Newbie intro- frustrated mom of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) teen
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="EndangeredCheerleader" data-source="post: 579266" data-attributes="member: 15279"><p>Thanks Calamity Jane and Wiped Out.</p><p></p><p>I have not kept records. I know I should. I figured I had enough support from friends, neighbors, and teachers that we'd be okay. Writing it down felt like keeping score and I hoped she'd grow out of it. Neighborhood kids come over to swim so they know difficult child has not been beaten when she runs around in a bikini from April to October. The garage freezer is full of ice pops all the kids are free to take, so I think some will attest to the fact we do not starve her. She sees her pedi for a medication check every three months, so we have proof of consistant medical care. </p><p></p><p>Middle school provided a new teacher and audience every 50 minutes and my little kid telling little lies became a big kid with big lies. Most of her stories are plays for sympathy. I believe she wants hugs and encouragement not the resulting fall out. In sixth grade she cried in the lunchroom for a week, telling a teacher and lots of little girls her dad died in an auto accident. The teacher finally called to suggest I get Gfg13 into grief counselling- I was like remember those conferences where I warned about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)? I'm so sorry but you got played. We pulled her records of nurse visits once out of curiousity and she visited the school nurse 30 times in 45 days or something insane. Fifth grade, was when I would not get out of bed to drive her to school. First period teacher called me and accused ME of lying when I explained difficult child was there on time everyday. I suggested she pull her sisters attendance records, who was in the same school and call me back. We still have no idea where Gfg13 was hiding for 30 minutes every morning but she magically got her rear to class after being busted. </p><p></p><p>It could be worse. She is fairly innocent with no serious interest in sex or drugs yet. I figure if I shelter her, I can get her through high school without pregnancy or addictions. But that involves isolating her through homeschool. Considering that makes me feel a little insane... like I'm Mother Gothel locking up Rapunsel.</p><p></p><p>She is doing well in home school. She is learning so much more than she was in public school. It's hard to waste learning time looking for sympathy when your teacher lives with you and won't buy in to drama. I'm freaking out because once I start on the homeschool path for high school, we are stuck with it for four years. My Gfg13 could not go back to traditional school on grade level unless we stick with the state certified cyberschool which I plan to drop. Plus she's going to miss out on the fun extras of high school... I have to sit here reminding myself it would not matter- she would never qualify when she'd have to pass classes/behave to play sports or participate in clubs. She has not matured enough to walk that line.</p><p></p><p>I don't know. I'm processing and feeling nuts. I'll get over the pity party soon.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="EndangeredCheerleader, post: 579266, member: 15279"] Thanks Calamity Jane and Wiped Out. I have not kept records. I know I should. I figured I had enough support from friends, neighbors, and teachers that we'd be okay. Writing it down felt like keeping score and I hoped she'd grow out of it. Neighborhood kids come over to swim so they know difficult child has not been beaten when she runs around in a bikini from April to October. The garage freezer is full of ice pops all the kids are free to take, so I think some will attest to the fact we do not starve her. She sees her pedi for a medication check every three months, so we have proof of consistant medical care. Middle school provided a new teacher and audience every 50 minutes and my little kid telling little lies became a big kid with big lies. Most of her stories are plays for sympathy. I believe she wants hugs and encouragement not the resulting fall out. In sixth grade she cried in the lunchroom for a week, telling a teacher and lots of little girls her dad died in an auto accident. The teacher finally called to suggest I get Gfg13 into grief counselling- I was like remember those conferences where I warned about Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)? I'm so sorry but you got played. We pulled her records of nurse visits once out of curiousity and she visited the school nurse 30 times in 45 days or something insane. Fifth grade, was when I would not get out of bed to drive her to school. First period teacher called me and accused ME of lying when I explained difficult child was there on time everyday. I suggested she pull her sisters attendance records, who was in the same school and call me back. We still have no idea where Gfg13 was hiding for 30 minutes every morning but she magically got her rear to class after being busted. It could be worse. She is fairly innocent with no serious interest in sex or drugs yet. I figure if I shelter her, I can get her through high school without pregnancy or addictions. But that involves isolating her through homeschool. Considering that makes me feel a little insane... like I'm Mother Gothel locking up Rapunsel. She is doing well in home school. She is learning so much more than she was in public school. It's hard to waste learning time looking for sympathy when your teacher lives with you and won't buy in to drama. I'm freaking out because once I start on the homeschool path for high school, we are stuck with it for four years. My Gfg13 could not go back to traditional school on grade level unless we stick with the state certified cyberschool which I plan to drop. Plus she's going to miss out on the fun extras of high school... I have to sit here reminding myself it would not matter- she would never qualify when she'd have to pass classes/behave to play sports or participate in clubs. She has not matured enough to walk that line. I don't know. I'm processing and feeling nuts. I'll get over the pity party soon. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Newbie intro- frustrated mom of Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) teen
Top