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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 465473" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Ok...biomom is an addict. Did she use drugs/drink while she was pregnant? This alone can cause behavior problems and poor impulse control...from mild to severe. It can mess with the development of the frontal lobe of the brain to, at it's worse, cause severe organic brain damage. He obviously is too bright to have fetal alcohol syndrome or it's effects. However, if she abused drugs or drank while pregnant, there is almost no way to get around some damage to the developing brain. If she was a drug user during pregnancy (even smoking can affect a fetus), that could be large part of his inability to control himself. </p><p>Other than that, I am also wondering about possible attachment issues due to his mother being in and out of his life and then removed. Although it sounds like she was a terrible influence on him, that doesn't stop kids from loving and missing their parents. Was there a lot of changing of caregivers when he was extremely young? Was he taken good care of in his infancy?</p><p>Also, it sounds like a good deal of the family on both sides (genetic family) has poor impulse control issues. That can be inherited. There is no quick fix for any of this (I know men are "fixers" lol). It is slow with a lot of trial and error. I do think it will help once he gets into treatment <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> You are pretty much doing what you can do from your end, but all of us can use a little help!</p><p>Thanks for sharing and keep us posted.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 465473, member: 1550"] Ok...biomom is an addict. Did she use drugs/drink while she was pregnant? This alone can cause behavior problems and poor impulse control...from mild to severe. It can mess with the development of the frontal lobe of the brain to, at it's worse, cause severe organic brain damage. He obviously is too bright to have fetal alcohol syndrome or it's effects. However, if she abused drugs or drank while pregnant, there is almost no way to get around some damage to the developing brain. If she was a drug user during pregnancy (even smoking can affect a fetus), that could be large part of his inability to control himself. Other than that, I am also wondering about possible attachment issues due to his mother being in and out of his life and then removed. Although it sounds like she was a terrible influence on him, that doesn't stop kids from loving and missing their parents. Was there a lot of changing of caregivers when he was extremely young? Was he taken good care of in his infancy? Also, it sounds like a good deal of the family on both sides (genetic family) has poor impulse control issues. That can be inherited. There is no quick fix for any of this (I know men are "fixers" lol). It is slow with a lot of trial and error. I do think it will help once he gets into treatment :) You are pretty much doing what you can do from your end, but all of us can use a little help! Thanks for sharing and keep us posted. [/QUOTE]
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