Likely, everyone reading this can relate: I am exhausted, overwhelmed, unsure, totally at a loss. As a single mom of two boys and virtually no help from their dad, I struggle. Add to that my 9 year old's difficulties and I'm stretched too thin where I just want to escape forever. Hopefully someone on here can help. For one, I want to know that I'm not alone; for another, I'd like some tips on what to do. Anyone???
My son has always been challenging-- super intense, socially awkward, prone to fits of anger, defiant. Now I just have to take a more aggressive stance because being the love-all, hippie-mama isn't doing any of us any good, I'm afraid. So my lil' guy is intelligent, holds great conversations, in many ways more mature than his peers. He is uber-affectionate with me, very respectful in class, wants to avoid trouble, cares deeply about people important to him. When he is shining, the world shines around him.
On the flip side, at home he is often (6 days out of 7) a monster to his 6-year old brother; has this absolute sense of entitlement with his father and I; has been hitting me and his brother, throwing things at me, kicking us, scratching. He feels the need to correct people whenever he perceives them as being wrong. He considers classmates his friend, and I don't think the kids dislike him... but at the same time, very rarely is he invited to play dates and when he is, he often doesn't want to go because he rather stay at home. His overall demeanor is often like Eeyore where the glass is always half-empty.
It is like pulling teeth to get his dad to sign a waiver allowing him to attend therapy, and now that I've chosen someone, I have no idea if she's the right fit. He is bitter about his dad and I getting a divorce several years ago, especially since his dad moved 1 1/2 hours away and is a Disneyland-Dad/ weekends-only type of guy.
Does this sound like behaviors you've seen? Is there really a diagnosis that seems to fit? He's allergic to wheat, but I haven't eliminated it from his diet. Could that be contributing? Depression? Bipolar? Anxiety? I don't know!!!! Right now, I just wish I had a friend who could understand and guide me. I'm tired of crying.
Thanks for 'listening.'
My son has always been challenging-- super intense, socially awkward, prone to fits of anger, defiant. Now I just have to take a more aggressive stance because being the love-all, hippie-mama isn't doing any of us any good, I'm afraid. So my lil' guy is intelligent, holds great conversations, in many ways more mature than his peers. He is uber-affectionate with me, very respectful in class, wants to avoid trouble, cares deeply about people important to him. When he is shining, the world shines around him.
On the flip side, at home he is often (6 days out of 7) a monster to his 6-year old brother; has this absolute sense of entitlement with his father and I; has been hitting me and his brother, throwing things at me, kicking us, scratching. He feels the need to correct people whenever he perceives them as being wrong. He considers classmates his friend, and I don't think the kids dislike him... but at the same time, very rarely is he invited to play dates and when he is, he often doesn't want to go because he rather stay at home. His overall demeanor is often like Eeyore where the glass is always half-empty.
It is like pulling teeth to get his dad to sign a waiver allowing him to attend therapy, and now that I've chosen someone, I have no idea if she's the right fit. He is bitter about his dad and I getting a divorce several years ago, especially since his dad moved 1 1/2 hours away and is a Disneyland-Dad/ weekends-only type of guy.
Does this sound like behaviors you've seen? Is there really a diagnosis that seems to fit? He's allergic to wheat, but I haven't eliminated it from his diet. Could that be contributing? Depression? Bipolar? Anxiety? I don't know!!!! Right now, I just wish I had a friend who could understand and guide me. I'm tired of crying.
Thanks for 'listening.'