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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 317562" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>surely it would still be considered discriminatory? especially since picking on the kid for parental choices is totally unfair...</p><p></p><p>Here it would be a human rights issue, covered under global anti-discrimination legislation. Yes, kids would say mean things, but action could be taken because it is wrong.</p><p></p><p>I mean - it really shouldn't matter. It's nobody's business, a kid might seem to have two mothers because he lives with a mother and an aunt. Sexual preference and orientation is not the kid's 'fault' in any way. Kids will be kids, parents will say things they shouldn't in front of their kids (who then will use it as a weapon, especially against a kid they find scary). I know it happens. It happens here too. But it can be fought on numerous fronts. The school has a legal responsibility to keep kids safe. </p><p></p><p>I have an obvious physical disability. Local kids have tried to hassle me because of it but my response generally is, "It's OK, I know I walk funny. I noticed it long ago, what took you so long?" I confront what they say and then after examining it, I make it clear that the topic is dismissed as irrelevant.</p><p>The troubles come when people try to link difficult child 3's autism, to my physical disability. In people's minds, there has to be a connection (even if one doesn't exist). Some teachers even said, "I supposed his autism happened becausee of your disability?"</p><p></p><p>The only way to deal with that sort of potentially damaging misinformation, is with direct confrontation and clarification. I don't go into details, I just point out that my disability is my business and happened long before difficult child 3 was born. Any focus on me or my problem, is misdirection and a distraction from the genuine help my child needs.</p><p></p><p>Getting to the point, in other words. "Whatever you think of me, forget it when you deal with my child."</p><p></p><p>People are human. Unfortunately.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 317562, member: 1991"] surely it would still be considered discriminatory? especially since picking on the kid for parental choices is totally unfair... Here it would be a human rights issue, covered under global anti-discrimination legislation. Yes, kids would say mean things, but action could be taken because it is wrong. I mean - it really shouldn't matter. It's nobody's business, a kid might seem to have two mothers because he lives with a mother and an aunt. Sexual preference and orientation is not the kid's 'fault' in any way. Kids will be kids, parents will say things they shouldn't in front of their kids (who then will use it as a weapon, especially against a kid they find scary). I know it happens. It happens here too. But it can be fought on numerous fronts. The school has a legal responsibility to keep kids safe. I have an obvious physical disability. Local kids have tried to hassle me because of it but my response generally is, "It's OK, I know I walk funny. I noticed it long ago, what took you so long?" I confront what they say and then after examining it, I make it clear that the topic is dismissed as irrelevant. The troubles come when people try to link difficult child 3's autism, to my physical disability. In people's minds, there has to be a connection (even if one doesn't exist). Some teachers even said, "I supposed his autism happened becausee of your disability?" The only way to deal with that sort of potentially damaging misinformation, is with direct confrontation and clarification. I don't go into details, I just point out that my disability is my business and happened long before difficult child 3 was born. Any focus on me or my problem, is misdirection and a distraction from the genuine help my child needs. Getting to the point, in other words. "Whatever you think of me, forget it when you deal with my child." People are human. Unfortunately. Marg [/QUOTE]
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