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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 494569" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>Short answer, is the answer you already know: no.</p><p></p><p>However... may not be that unusual given the background...</p><p></p><p>The rest of it?</p><p>Maybe some attachment/relationship issues?</p><p>Not the "abused/neglected from early childhood" kinds of attachment issues.</p><p>But...</p><p>If relationships got damaged at around age 4... you didn't know and so couldn't help...</p><p>The disconnect can be disasterous.</p><p></p><p>There's been several good discussions on the board lately about "insecure attachment". </p><p>Perhaps... </p><p>Because of events beyond YOUR control, she is hurting badly.</p><p>SHE has detached herself to some degree from you, because she (naturally, at that point) expected you to be able to keep her safe. And you couldn't. This is NOT cause for guilt - it isn't your fault either. But the "little girl" doesn't see that. So... she decides the only way to survive is to look out for herself... "its all about me". So much of the behavior is things that would go with this scenario. </p><p></p><p>For us - it was school problems.</p><p>It can be lots of things.</p><p>But... while you're getting to the bottom of things, it might pay to look at the relationship, the degree of attachment, and ways to re-build bridges.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 494569, member: 11791"] Short answer, is the answer you already know: no. However... may not be that unusual given the background... The rest of it? Maybe some attachment/relationship issues? Not the "abused/neglected from early childhood" kinds of attachment issues. But... If relationships got damaged at around age 4... you didn't know and so couldn't help... The disconnect can be disasterous. There's been several good discussions on the board lately about "insecure attachment". Perhaps... Because of events beyond YOUR control, she is hurting badly. SHE has detached herself to some degree from you, because she (naturally, at that point) expected you to be able to keep her safe. And you couldn't. This is NOT cause for guilt - it isn't your fault either. But the "little girl" doesn't see that. So... she decides the only way to survive is to look out for herself... "its all about me". So much of the behavior is things that would go with this scenario. For us - it was school problems. It can be lots of things. But... while you're getting to the bottom of things, it might pay to look at the relationship, the degree of attachment, and ways to re-build bridges. [/QUOTE]
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